@suzyy,
Dude calls you up, asks to hang out. You end up in bed together. For no cost (e. g. dinner) to the dude. Score one for the dude.
Time goes by. You tell the dude you don't want to do this anymore. Dude tells you he doesn't want a relationship.
More time goes by. Dude calls you up, asks to hang out.
You honestly think he's doing this for any reason
other than ending up in bed together? You are a **** buddy. I am sorry - that is not a nice term. But that is what it is, and it is not nice what is being done to you. And you are allowing it!
Why, oh, why, do you have any feelings whatsoever for this jerk?
This is not about feelings, other than the physical kind. It is not about "love" or even friendship. It is about you wanting to be done by a handsome guy. And him wanting to do the deed without the trappings of girlfriends, with their messy, needy feelings, their desires to be seen in public, their demands for Christmas gifts and dinners out and the like.
If you go back and do this again, do at least be honest with yourself.
THIS IS NOT ABOUT FEELINGS. IT IS ABOUT SCRATCHING AN ORGASMIC ITCH.
And, frankly, a vibrator wouldn't mess with your mental health and wouldn't, potentially, expose you to all sorts of lovely diseases.
Yes, even handsome men can get nasty diseases.
You have another fellow. Concentrate on him, or on finding even someone else. And show the **** buddy the door.