Montana wrote:I don't agree. If he is in it for the wrong reasons and she gets her heart broken, then it's not the end of the world and she will have learned a valuable lesson and as far as the him not wanting to reveal the relationship tells me that he doesn't want to be judged. If anyone can judge this man simply because he has feelings for an 18 year old adult girl, then he's being judged unfairly.
Given what little we know of a.g., we can't say what her reaction would be if this man is doting on her for less than honourable reasons. It would be a life lesson, but it could also create a situation where she is more fearful of becoming involved in future relationships. Or rather, future relationships may never develop because of this one.
As for his not wanting to be judged....it is wholly unrealistic to live their entire relationship behind closed doors. He's got to come out of the shadows at some point. But that whole issue just smells fishy to me.
I would rather warn this girl so she can take a more realistic viewpoint than to say it's okay to rush on into something that she is, to a certain degree, starry-eyed about. She must have some reservations, however, since she posted here. If she didn't we wouldn't even know of her story.