smiling wrote:4)dirty? quite possibly i would, but i really dont know.
If you can't know how having several casual intimacies would impact on you, then it shows, I think, how little you "know" yourself.
I reread your initial post. You said you have
never "lived the single life." That just reinforces my above thought. This may be a case of the right guy at the wrong time. Since you've broken up with him, you should explore life as a young single woman. I don't mean the sexual aspect, I mean all aspects of being independent. I think once you do, you will know more about what you want out of life.
You also said "How do i convince myself that what i could have in a realtionship is far better than 100 hook ups?" If you can't answer that question for yourself, no one else will be able to. My own personal bias is that a relationship is worth far more than casual sex. To be honest, I really don't know what anyone would gain from casual sex, other than sexual know-how. Perhaps someone else can give an answer that I'm just not aware of. Having said that, I'm not advocating you go back to your ex-boyfriend right now because it's so obvious you are not ready for a long-term relationship with him.
Finally, all the questions you asked at the end of your initial post seem to indicate that you want someone to give you an answer that really doesn't exist. That's how a lot of life is, plenty of questions, but not always answers.
I think you did one right thing in breaking up with your boyfriend. But your comment that you have "told him i have every intention of asking him to take me back when i'm ready" is not right. You are basically asking him to make himself available for you when you get through your exploration. Who knows how long that might be? What if by the end, you are a changed person and decide he is not the one for you but he is still waiting? By waiting, you are potentially turning this situation into something even worse for him. You need to be more honest with him and not give him any false hopes.