Emotionally Abusive Spouse. What do I do?

My husband an I have been married for barely two months. When we first started dating he was attentive, sweet, interested in my thoughts, and open minded. He went out of his way to do sweet things for me, and really swept me off of my feet.

Then one day, a few months before our wedding, he said something rude to me. It hurt my feelings but I chalked it up to stress. The wedding was so close and everyone was stressed out. He started becoming hyper obsessed with my past relationships. He destroyed some of my books that referenced countries I'd visited saying that they would remind me of my exes (who were all ethnic). He would say rude things to me about having been intimate with other men before him. He got on my computer, rifled through my files, documents, and history confronting me about anything he found that seemed suspicious. He was sure I was on dating sites, or talking to exes behind his back. After he blamed me he would apologize, coddle me, and treat me well again. Eventually I had to password protect my computer.

This all resulted in a come-to-Jesus meeting with him, his family, and mine... it was determined that he was just too stressed after everything that had happened and from then on until the wedding he functioned like my loving-man again, deeply sorry for the distress he's caused.

After the wedding we had 3 beautiful weeks of marital bliss then BAM. Not only did his previous behavior flare up again it was more frequent and more intense. Everytime we would pass an attractive man, anywhere, he would get aggravated and make a rude or sarcastic comment to me. When I told him that it hurt me he would insist he had only been joking and that I was "too sensitive".

He constantly berates me for my sexual past. I wasn't a virgin when I married him and he had waited for sex until marriage. He knew at the very beginning of our relationship that I had been intimate with other men, and he assured me that it didn't matter because he loved me. Now I'm constantly punished for it. He shames me for having an IUD saying that I got it so that I could "sleep around". He once counted on his fingers, in my face, how many men I had slept with. His views on sexuality became rigid and though he was a pornography watcher for a long time he bashed me constantly for having at one time been interested in "True blood", claiming that I was only interested in the sex scenes. I can't even read romance novels anymore because he thinks I'm using them to replace him.

I felt compelled to have sex with him frequently. If I said "no" he would either become hurt, feel rejected, or get angry. Eventually I stopped feeling any sexual attraction towards him because I always felt so disgusting and uncared for. However, I still remained intimate with him, sometimes participating more than twice a day to keep him happy. Everytime I said "no" he laid on the guilt or the shame.

I told myself I would stay, that we would work through it, that we could because we loved each other. Between his episodes he would treat me like the most important woman in the world. "You're my queen", he would say. He would be that sweet, loving man that I fell in love with and I would feel comfortable again.

The other night I was feeling sick and denied him sex. He acted upset but I'd been advised not to inquire about his feelings. We climbed into bed, turned off the lights, and then he commenced to talk...talk...talk... about how I would have sex with him if he were my "ex" or if he were "this man", and he didn't understand why I had such a sordid sexual history (which I don't). I didn't speak, I let him go on. When I refused to answer his irrational questions he clapped his hands near my ears and said "Hello?" he then commenced to tear the blankets off of me, roll me over and hold me down forcefully so that I would have to listen to him. I struggled and he finally released me and left the room. I was so upset that I got up, got dressed, and was preparing to leave to stay at my parents house for the night.

He intercepted me at our bedroom door, grabbed my arms, and threw me back into the room. He closed the door and snatched my phone away from me so that I couldn't call anyone. He demanded "Where are you going?" when I started to cry he turned and punched the door hard enough to crack the wood all the way through to the other side.

Eventually he told me he would drive me to my parents house. He did, but he kept my keys and in the morning he came to the house. When I heard him coming in I hid in the bathroom. He stopped through the house, woke up my brother and demanded to know where I was. Eventually I had to face him, but with my brother there I felt more comfortable. He acted ashamed and sad. He gave me back my keys but sat outside the house for a long time. Eventually my sister in law picked me up, asked him not to come to her house... he didn't.

Now he's constantly texting me, asking me to work it out with him, saying he'll go to counseling (which he's promised before... but then refuses to saying that he doesn't have a problem). He acts ashamed, sad, and very apologetic. He begs me not to leave.

I think I need to mention, also, that he has threatened to commit suicide numerous times if I ever left him. "I'll just run off a bridge", "I'll set this house on fire with me in it, I can't live without you", "I'd rather be in heaven anyway"... and such.

I'm just worried because things escalated so quickly. He had NEVER hit anything before we got married. Suddenly he was punching walls and doors, and throwing things.. (he threw his wedding ring once). Within weeks he's graduated to forcefully handling me.

I love him. Or, I love the man that he is when he is level emotionally. But I'm afraid. I'm afraid for myself (though he swears he would NEVER hit me and that I'm overreacting about his throwing me back into the bedroom), and I am unsure about our relationship.

Am I being over the top with expecting that he'll eventually become physically abusive? Or is this a valid concern?

Though I love him, isn't it better to remove myself from such a volatile and unpredictable relationship? We've only been married 2 months. Should I give it more time or am I right to suspect that it will never change and seek an annulment?

So sorry for such a long post but I'm desperate for impartial and unbiased advice. Help. I feel destroyed about this on the inside.