It's not a question of being able to do what you say you're doing, Fred. It's a question of not seeing any point to it. No point whatsoever.
I don't get it. You want your ex to be the last girl you sleep with, and you feel like it would be wrong to sleep with someone else. So does that mean you think you'll be getting back with her sometime in the next forty days? Is this some kind of test of fate?
By the way, no masturbating? You'll never make it out alive.
No Kickycan I dont think I will be getting back with my ex.. What it all comes down to is SEX ruined my last relationshi! My ex would always say "there has to be more to us then just sex." Well there was but I never gave us the chance to see that! Now that I have this new girl I dont want to make the same mistake. So this bet in all actuality is to hopefuly get the whole wanting to lose her virginity to me thing out of her head and show her that hey you come this far in life without it why not just wait a little longer......Plus if things dont work out with her and I, I dont want to have that on my shoulders like I do with my ex (I also took my ex's Virginity)
Aaaaah, now I see. You're actually trying to do something for this virgin girl, by showing her that sex is not that important. That's nice. The problem is that sex is important! At 22 and 24, you should both be banging away like rabbits. Practice, practice, practice! Lose the contest and get on with it!
In fact, if I knew your e-mail, I would send you some porn just to make you lose!
kickycan wrote:Aaaaah, now I see. You're actually trying to do something for this virgin girl, by showing her that sex is not that important. That's nice.
FINALLY SOMEONE THAT GETS IT! And dont get me wrong Kickycan SEX is GREAT but, its also not everything! Plus call me crazy but the best sex I have ever had was with my ex because one it not only felt great physically but also emotionally! And thats kind of something I would like to hold on to until I am married and start "banging out" someone else! LOL
Yeah, I guess I can see that . . . sort of.
But you're still never going to make it.
LOL............Well you might be right about that......But I am not going down without a fight!
3 days down folks and 37 to go!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL there is a pool going on between my friends to see if make this through or not!
If your motivation is just to wait for a while before getting intimate, why make a bet out of it? You're turning what should be a major aspect of your relationship into a sporting event. If you were my boyfriend, and I knew you were doing this, I'd kick you to the curb.
Sorry if that's not very nice but frankly this isn't nice; it's just keeping score and overly obsessing about sex. If you truly care for this woman and are holding out due to respect for her, you wouldn't be wagering on when the deed will finally be done.
Well Jespah I didnt make this bet she is the one who did! And she is the one that told our friends about it so they could try to make me lose! So I am not the one making a sporting event out of this!
I am just showing the world of women that men are not all about just sex!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
"I am just showing the world of women that men are not all about just sex!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"
No, we are about sex and bets about sex.
Then if she made the bet I have my doubts that she's a virgin (not that that matters, but you might wonder about other areas where she's told you stuff). I'm sorry to impugn her character, but generally people (male and female) who've held out sexually for a significant period of time have done so for a reason. And then when they lose their virginity they do so for an extremely compelling reason, such as marriage or engagement. If she's suddenly looking to bust loose for something a lot less compelling than that, well, argh, the whole thing just reeks to me.
And even if the whole thing is 100% absolutely guaranteed to be on the up and up, don't you think this puts you in a difficult position? She's betting on you to fail. And she's looking to take control of you, certainly for this time period and perhaps for afterwards. Do you really want to be led around by this?
I despise relationship games; I really do. I think they're stupid and unnecessary, and also that they tend to be a semi-socially acceptable way of expressing hostility and/or seeking to dominate one's partner.
Jespah, I think it's totally fine. They are 22 and 24. That's what people do at age 22 and 24. They talk about, obsess about, and play games about sex. It's totally normal, and it sounds like fun to me. The only part that sounds like it might be unhealthy to me is the part about not masturbating for forty days. Fred, you could do serious damage to yourself, young man!
Well then you and Jespah are both 100% wrong!
It sounds to me like the chick is playin you....I find it really funny too, she has you eating out of her hand. Good ole head games!
How is she playing me!!!!!!! AHHHHHH if I win I DONT HAVE TO HAVE SEX! Its only if I lose that I do!!!!!!!!!!!! I am fine without it till I am married this is just a bet I am going along with to make her HAPPY when I do make it through 40 days and 40 nights she will drop the whole subject well maybe not the subject but the peer presure!! And she is a VIRGIN that just has totaly fallen head over heals in love with me!!!!!!!!! Why? I dunno thats something to ask her!
Why is it so important to emphasize the fact that she's a virgin if it's not even about the sex? She's just testing you to see how she can manipulate you later...hehe.
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