I'm pretty sure I love a friend of mine who's the same sex

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So, I'm a 17 year old male. All my life I've been falling in love with women, but never had a relationship. By because I haven tried, but the ones I'm interested in aren't remotely interested in me. Last year I had crushes on a few males the same age as me at school, the sort the porn industry would refer to as "twinks". However, about a year ago I became really attracted to one of my best friends. I hadn't felt a thing for him before, but I suddenly became attracted. He isn't of the same sort of physical appearance as the others, most people probably wouldn't even call him handsome, but I'm attracted to him, moreso than I was to the other people.
So, my pornographic habits may help your judgement a bit. Mostly, I enjoy straight porn. Obviously I also therefore like lesbian pornography. Also, I don't mind post-op transsexual pornography, and do have some feelings for Kimber James. Yes, I have watched gay porn, but I really don't like all that older men or muscly stuff, just 'twinks'.
A PHSE teacher once said that adolescent boys can go through phases like this where they just "snap out of it" at a later age and are completely straight. So, I know there's that age old question "is bisexuality real?", but is varying level of bisexuality real, like I, excuse me for the following vulgarity, would want to have sex with all the women I see who in find attractive. If I'm in, say, a town centre, in half an hour of standing there 100 women walk past, I'd want to have sex with all the ones I find attractive, probably 75%-ish? But if 100 males walked past, I'd be attracted to probably one at most, the 'twink' sort.
My dreams of the future? Well, I'd like to get married and have kids. Though if I think about it, I wouldn't really mind marrying said friend and adopting/test-tube babies etc., but I wouldn't want to marry/have a family with any of the other males I know that I had crushes on. I would however like to have sex with said friend, and the few other people I mentioned earlier.
So basically, is minor bisexuality a thing? I could probably count the number of males I want to have sex with on one hand, but the number of females I'd like to have sex with is near innumerable.
Thanks for taking the time to read this, and thanks for the help Smile

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@rather-confused,

I'm pretty sure I love a friend of mine who's the same sex

I'm assuming, maybe wrongly he's the same species?, If so, congratulations, it's a step up the ladder on the crap that's been appearing here lately. A very small step.
Although I still think you're talking bollocks and why you're posting shite like this on this particular web site is beyond me.

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@eurocelticyankee,

Yes, he's also a human being...
I posted it here because I'd seen a few similar questions on here from the past and people had received comfort, support, and suggestions...

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@rather-confused,

Sure, "minor bisexuality" is a thing.

That is, people can be almost but not completely attracted to the opposite sex, but then very occasionally have a same-sex attraction.

If you've read around though, one thing that you've probably seen a lot of is that if you're very young (and 17 is still young), you don't necessarily have to don a specific identity yet. Wait and see what happens.

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@sozobe,

Thanks for the answer, just what I wanted to know. Should I tell him my feelings or wait a few years to see if anything changes due to being older?

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@rather-confused,

I'd say you should tell him your feelings except for the "one of my best friends" part. Completely taking possible bisexuality out of the picture, that's pretty much always an awkward situation, when one close friend is attracted to the other. And friendships don't always survive, especially if the attraction is unrequited.

So you'd have to be willing to lose his friendship if you just say it directly.

You can maybe bring it up in a sort of sidelong way and see what happens.

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@eurocelticyankee,

Wow, where did that come from? It was really uncalled for.

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@joefromchicago,

Was it really?.

First off it was humour, dark but still humour.

Plus do you really believe any of this ****?. Do you not notice the same MO, one post, always a stupid sexual problem, from incest to what ever. Anybody who encourages these pathetic posts is worse.

Joe, I want to sleep with my aunt but she had an operation and now she's my uncle, what'll I do Joe???. What'll I Do????

I've stayed away from WA2K for a while and all these stupid posts were one reason why, I think I'll stay away altogether and leave it to you Joe to sort out all these serious sexual problems.

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@rather-confused,

Bullshit.

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@sozobe,

Ok, thanks for all the advice

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@eurocelticyankee,

Well, given that my question is actually true... what, did the amount of typos in the first post make you think I was spamming? Or are you homophobic? The typos are because of auto'correct', and I can assure you my question is perfectly genuine.

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@rather-confused,

I don't believe a word of it and yes sure why not, if it suits you lets say I'm homophobic.
I call Bullshit.

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@eurocelticyankee,

Well evidently you have something against me. Why would you use a forum like this if you're just going to "call bullshit" on everything you see that you don't agree with or can't relate to. Every word of my question is true; if you mistakenly choose not to believe it, fine by me. But please keep those thoughts to yourself rather than go around repeatedly calling bollocks and veering into bullying who is quite clearly a fairly vulnerable person. Sexuality is nothing to be sniffed at, it can be very serious, it can change the lives of people enormously, and I'm sure it wouldn't take you too much effort to find the "it gets better" videos from LGBT employees at major American companies. People who's parents disowned them. People who considered suicide. Their lives certainly didn't improve with people like you calling them liars. This is the 21st century, the age of digital sharing. Clearly it's beyond you to consider that somebody who has grown up in the Internet world and is part of "the Facebook generation" might be slightly more comfortable with anonymously sharing their queries about their sexuality.

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@rather-confused,

I've nothing against you personally and I don't call bullshit on everything I see. Less of the drama please.
Do me a favour go to the relationship forum, from there go to the sex forum. Now trawl through the pages and pages of garbage to do with so called sexual problems. It's pathetic isn't it?. Note the MO. Seem familiar, maybe NOW you might understand where I'm coming from.

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@eurocelticyankee,

If you think that the relationship and sex forums are full of bollocks, why do you look through them? And it wasn't particularly kind to literally mark this question in the "Bolocks" forum.

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@rather-confused,

First I heard about a "Bollocks" forum.

I don't look through them, you can't help but see them when their posted. There seems to be an epidemic of them. What's wrong with your generation?, can you not talk to people face to face anymore. Deal with your issues head on, face them, if you've feelings for somebody, act on them, you only live once. Don't run to the computer to ask some anonymous person what to do. Like I said at least your post was a step above the usual diatribe.
Unless you're planning to sleep with one of your family soon. Razz

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@eurocelticyankee,

One thing the people with blatantly phoney or ridiculous questions have in common is that they tend not to respond after people have jumped on the thread and started having a good laugh.
I haven't told him my feelings to his face because any degree of homosexuality is rarer than straightness. I have no idea what his sexual orientation is, he's had a similarly empty relationship history to mine, so I can't really tell from that.

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@eurocelticyankee,

CelticYank wrote:

. . . and yes sure why not, if it suits you lets say I'm homophobic.

You're afraid of homogenized milk? How weird is that?

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@joefromchicago,

Dear Joe,

I have two brothers, one works at Microsoft, the other was sentenced to death in the gas chamber.
My mother died of insanity when I was three years old, my two sisters are prostitutes and my father sells drugs.
Recently, I met a girl who was released from a reformatory where she served time for smothering her illegitimate child to death.
I love this girl very much and want to marry her.
My problem is this:
Shall I tell her about my brother who works at Microsoft?
Sincerely, George

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@eurocelticyankee,

Oh, you managed to find your father? Or is this an example of some of the stuff that occurs in the relationship forums because the Microsoft brother would be, in the most common subjective view, the least concerning family member you should tell her about?

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