Relative wrote:Everybody killed everybody for some time in ex-Yugoslavia. OK? If you don't understand that's because your perspective is one-sided.
Every war ends up with everybody killing everybody. That doesn't mean it isn't possible to discern "who started it", or, to put it more sophisticatedly, who were responsible for the political and military escalation that led to the war.
Thats not necessarily (just) one country or people. I think Tudjman was as guilty as Milosevic. I
do think that it is possible to distinguish between those who were more of a victim, and those who were more of a perpetrator, though - easily. And Milosevic and "his" Serbia (the Serbs who didnt protest or resist, the Serbs who voted him in, the Serbs who joined Seselj's Chetniks or Arkan's Tigers), bear a particular responsibility.
Relative wrote:I know Serbs, Croatians, Bosnians, Macedonians (and I knew some Albanians when in the army). They are NOT bad people in any way like some might think.
I don't think anyone here has said they think the Serbs or any other people are collectively "bad people".
Well, you are basically saying
Albanians are bad people - but otherwise noone is saying anything like that.
Relative wrote:Of all people, Albanians seem to be the least likable around here, and to no surprise. Better not tell you the stories about guys eyeing Albanian girls.. because they are scarry. Scarry to death sometimes. Albanians seem to have problems 'fitting in' socially - they develop their own culture inside a host culture, and at one moment they take over. They have 10 kids or even more, live packed like sardines, their women have NO rights, and they take control over ice-cream business first. Then the vegetables business. And nobody wants to talk about it, yet they all fear it.
Variations of this story, of course, can be found in history's archives: it's the way white Americans used to talk of Negroes, the way Europeans talk of Gypsies (Roma), the way Europeans used to talk about Jews ...
I acquainted a few Albanians, and I was glad to. They included some people who did not fit your description, in any way.
Relative wrote:Now imagine this going on for years, and imagine what a time-bomb! Everything soaked in gasolene! Illegal immigrants, enraged Serbs, enraged Albanians, a knife there, a gun there,.. Bloody hell, bloody mess!
Apologies for picking up on a detail here, but "illegal immigrants"? From where? Under Communist dictator Hoxha, Albania proper was the most tightly guarded prison in the world, barring North-Korea perhaps. Perhaps you should stick to the "10 kids or more" line, instead ... ;-)
As for all the talk of, give them a gun and they start killing, I think the story of how the Kosovar Albanians for almost ten years followed the lead of Ibrahim Rugova and his mission of non-violent resistance should give any peddler of Balkanist stereotypes pause for thought.
For
ten years, the Kosovars reacted to the increasing violence of the Serb soldiers and para-military thugs (many of whom came from Serbia proper for the occasion), by building their own underground society, setting up underground schools, instead of taking up arms.
The
many years it took before the guerrilla KLA became a serious player disproves any cliche of trigger-happy Albanians (or Balkanese, in general).