Waiting until marriage for sexx?

Seventeen is a bit young to have sex and waaaay too young to think about marriage

it would go against everything I've stood for for a really long time and I'd feel like such a hypocrite and I hate hypocrites.

I'm also terrified of sex. Especially since he's not a virgin. I know it wouldn't matter to him if I'm good enough or not, but it matters to me. I'm embarrassed even though I know I shouldn't be.

I really want to wait until marriage to have sex with my boyfriend. But I'm always really horny when I'm around him. We've messed around like him fingering me and me giving him a hand job but we've never gone farther. I'm 17 and he's 18. We've been together for almost a year and were best friends before this. Idk what to doo. He's not a virgin, but I am. He wants to have sex with me, but he respects my decision to wait and hasn't pressured me at all. I would reallyy like to have sex with him, but I want to wait until marriage. Idk what to do? Heeellppp?!

I'm also terrified of sex. Especially since he's not a virgin. I know it wouldn't matter to him if I'm good enough or not, but it matters to me. I'm embarrassed even though I know I shouldn't be. If I got pregnant, I'd get kicked out and have nowhere to live on top of having a baby. Plus, it would go against everything I've stood for for a really long time and I'd feel like such a hypocrite and I hate hypocrites.

About 50% of American females have sex by the time they are 17. 70% of females are sexually active by the age of 18.

CDC report: More teen girls use best birth control
May 4, 2012

ATLANTA (AP) — More teen girls now use the best kinds of birth control, a new government study says.

About 60 percent of teen girls who have sex use the most effective kinds of contraception, including the pill and patch.

That’s up from the mid-90s, when less than half were using the best kinds, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention study found.

The trend in better contraception is helping to drive down the teen birth rate, health officials said.

The CDC released the report Thursday. It’s based on a national survey of 2,300 girls ages 15 to 19, conducted in the years 2006 through 2010.

The most effective forms of birth control include the pill, patch, vaginal ring, IUD, the Implanon arm implant and the Depo-Provera contraceptive shot. Using only condoms was deemed just moderately effective.

Why are more teen girls now using hormonal birth control like the pill? Doctors seem to be increasingly comfortable prescribing them to teens, said Crystal Tyler, a CDC epidemiologist who co-authored the new report.

Also, some of them — like the vaginal ring — became available more recently, she said.

The teen birth rate fell 44 percent between 1990 and 2010. Another factor besides better birth control is increasing abstinence. About 43 percent of the girls in the survey said they’d had sex, the new study found. That’s down from a similar survey in 1995, when 51 percent of teen girls said they’d had sex.

“We hear a lot of times from teens that ’Everyone’s having sex.’ But a lot are not,” Tyler said.
http://www.commercialappeal.com/news/2012/may/04/cdc-report-more-teen-girls-use-best-birth-control/?CID=happeningnow

I am not saying that a 17 year old should have sex. But it is normal.

bout 43 percent of the girls in the survey said they’d had sex, the new study found. That’s down from a similar survey in 1995, when 51 percent of teen girls said they’d had sex.

Do you have a link to the actual study?

Don't bother, it's so inconclusive this study that it's not even worth discussing it.

November 15, 2011
Are Teenagers Really Having Less Sex?
By KJ DELL'ANTONIA

The number of unmarried teenagers between the ages of 15 and 19 who reported to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention that they’ve had sex has dropped below 50 percent. The C.D.C.’s research, based on data collected from 2006 to 2010, shows that about 43 percent of unmarried teenage girls and 42 percent of unmarried teenage boys say, on a survey administered by a C.D.C. interviewer but conducted largely on a laptop with headphones, that they’ve had sexual intercourse at least once. In 2002, the last year such a report was published, 51.1 percent of girls and 60.4 percent of boys said they had had sex by 19.

It’s not intended as a survey of which teenagers say they’ve had sex, of course. It’s intended as a survey of which teenagers have had sex. But self-reporting is the only way to get at that particular question, or the question of whether teenagers are using birth control, and which methods. Some reported results are supported by data: birth rates among teenagers are at their lowest ever recorded in the United States, suggesting either a decrease in sexual activity or an increase in birth control use (which most teenagers now report that they are using the first time they have sex). Beyond that, the teenagers’ answers are just that: their answers. Either fewer of them are actually having premarital sex or fewer are willing to admit it.

Teenagers also say different things about why they’re not having (or claiming to not have) sex yet. Dr. Gladys Martinez told The New York Times that the primary reason teenagers have always given for never having had sex was that “doing so was against their religion or morals.” But in previous surveys, the No. 2 reason boys gave was not wanting to get a girl pregnant; this time it’s that they haven’t found the right person yet. That’s either very sweet (a surprising 18 percent fewer boys say they’ve had premarital sex than in the 2002 survey) or just more support for the idea that many teenagers at least have the birth control thing down.

Maybe it’s because I’m not the parent of a teenager, but I’m having trouble figuring out what I should take away from this particular piece of research. That may be because of the age group surveyed — aren’t you, as a parent, more concerned about teenage sexual activity among 13- to 17-year-olds? Or maybe it’s because I’m caught up in that difficulty with the self-reported data. Maybe I’m cynical, but I put more credence in a truly anonymous Internet survey than in one that involved an adult sitting in your bedroom. (And research suggests I’m right: in voter turnout surveys, the results of the survey more closely reflect the actual voter numbers when a survey is done over the Internet than when possible voters are asked by phone if they voted.)

Have sexually active teenagers really become a minority? Or do teenagers just perceive adults as less tolerant of teenage sex, and so while they may be putting out, they’re shutting up? In either case, what’s changed from a mere decade ago, and is that change a good thing?
http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2011/11/15/are-teens-really-having-less-sex/

February 8, 2012
Teen Pregnancy Rate Hits 30-Year Low
By KJ DELL'ANTONIA

Between 2006 and 2010, the number of unmarried teenagers between the ages of 15 and 19 who reported to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention that they’ve had sex dropped below 50 percent. The C.D.C. described this as an actual drop in the number of teenagers having sex; the cynical addition of the word “reported” is mine: obviously the only way for the C.D.C. to determine whether those teenagers were sexually active (and how) was to ask them, and I’ve expressed my doubts about the resulting data.

Now the Guttmacher Institute is backing up those teenagers with hard facts: in 2008, the pregnancy rate among teenagers dropped to its lowest point in more than 30 years. In 1990, when the rate was at its highest, 116.9 out of every thousand girls between the ages of 15 and 19 became pregnant; in 2008, only 67.8 did. Among young women under 15, the pregnancy rate fell even more.

The Guttmacher Institute offers no conclusions about what lies behind the welcome change. For that, a return to those C.D.C. numbers might help: of the teenagers who admitted to having had sex, most reported that they used birth control, even for their “first time.”

Feb. 9, 2012 | Updated A representative of the Guttmacher Institute just let me know that it did, in fact, draw some conclusions. “A large body of research has shown that the long-term decline in teen pregnancy, birth and abortion rates was driven primarily by improved use of contraception among teens.”
http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/02/08/teen-pregnancy-rate-hits-30-year-low/