Child Support

I've only recieved one payment this month, so he owes me 2 weeks. All kinds of things are going through my head and I hope he doesn't get away with this.

If he didn't show up in court, the judge will be very annoyed. This can only be in your favor.

Meanwhile, let's heat up the bikini wax...

Keep holding.

OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOoooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo I'm so very pissed off right now. I just called my ex because I hadn't heard from the court. He says he went to court this morning and sat there waiting for 2 1/2 hours. He finally went to the clerk who told him that he should have reported in when he got there and that he won't be able to see the judge until 3pm. My ex told them he couldn't wait until 3pm, so they gave another date in another month. He put a payment in today, but I asked him where my support was for the first week of August and he said he paid me an extra week in advance in July. He did no such thing! He put an extra $100 in there last month for our sons birthday and he's going to claim it was advanced child support. He said he was working and ready for the court to adjust his payments today, but now I'll have to wait another month. I asked him why he just doesn't do the right thing now, since the court would have increased his payments today and he said "I'll do the right thing when I get into court"!

I'm so mad right now I just want to scream at the top of my lungs!!!!!!!!!!!! This is so very unfair!!!!!!!!!

I'm in tears :-(

He couldn't wait until 3:00?
It's a crock. He couldn't wait until 3:00 pm to see the judge? Why not? So he could go home and sit and do nothing? I assume that's where you reached him--at home. He was in court before and knew about his responsibility to check in with the clerk.

You can send the court (with a copy to your son's father) a motion to hold your son's father in contempt for nonsupport. This is the second time that he has avoided court, he's working, yet your son isn't getting the support he deserves.

Debra has good advice. All I have is sympathy. Poor, Montana. Shall we heat the bikini wax to the smoking point?

Re: He couldn't wait until 3:00?


He claims he called the court this morning and they told him he wasn't due in court until next month. He says he told them that he had a court document that says otherwise. He then said they told him to go on in then. He told them he couldn't stay until 3 because he had to babysit. Geee, I wonder who babysits when he's at work, duh!!! If he didn't have to be in court today, he would have been at work.

I'd file a motion for contempt, but when I filed for the complaint for modification, it took me 8 1/2 months to get a court date

I'm am totally beside myself that the courts are not pushing this.

Now I also lost a week in support the first week of Aug because my ex is claiming money he put in for my son as advanced support. I knew this wasn't going to be easy, but I thought the courts cracked down on these dead beats.





Noddy
Can we bring that wax to the boiling point please ;-)

Oh, Montana, I really thought that the last trip to the court was going to make things much better. So sorry!

Bubble, bubble, toil and trouble.
Fire burn....and caldron bubble.....

"Fillet of a fenny snake,

In the cauldron boil and bake:

eye of newt and toe of frog,

Wool of bat and tongue of dog,

Adder's fork and blind-worm's sting,

Lizard's leg and howlet's wing,

for a charm of pow'rful trouble,

Like a hell-broth boil and bubble."

ooooohhhhhh <running away>

Hee Hee I like that ;-)

Thanks Littlek
I so wish I could see the end of this, but this time I'm flaming mad and I plan on calling the court tomorrow and demand to talk to who's in charge of my case. Then I'm going to make some noise. This "I can't stay until 3" bull doesn't just buy him another month. NO WAY!!!! I will file a motion for contempt and will make damn sure that any judgement made a month from now is made retroactive.

Noddy is boiling the wax and sending out curses, so between the two of us, I think heads will roll, lol.

Montana--

You and I and MacBeth's witches.....the situation will be under control shortly.

More fuming today. I just called the court and it looks like there's not a damn thing I can do. I spoke with the superviser in the clerks office who said that the clerk has the right to give a continuence without the judges approval an there was nothing I could do about that. I then asked to file a motion for contempt and she said I could only do that if my sons support was over 3 weeks late. I was furious and told her that my ex has been pulling these scams for 17 years and it looks like people like him will continue to make fools out of the courts and get away with leaving their children high and dry.
I guess what I've heard through the years about the courts cracking down on deadbeats was wrong. Same crap, different year!!!

There will be an end to it, Montana. He can only run for so long, and the finish line is looming...

Montana, I don't know about how the court system operates in Boston, but I do know this. It appears to me that the court system everywhere views the problem of dead beat dads with a ho-hum attitude. I don't understand it.

Soz
My son will be out of high school in less than 2 years, so the end to it might just be too late.

Letty
Yup, same thing in Boston. People have been telling me for years to push the issue because they said the courts don't put up with it anymore.
What really kills me is that my ex finally walked in there for the first time yesterday with a job and all he had to do was say that he couldn't wait until 3pm to see the judge and the clerk game him a continuence. Why does the clerk have that kind of power without the judges approval when they don't know what's going on with the case? The judge will be floored that he was given more time, when he didn't even need it and so am I.

Montana, it sounds like you can do something in just one week if necessary. It's not three weeks yet, but when it IS three weeks.

Vent here, definitely vent here, but I'm just getting a little worried that you'll do something that hurts your case. You want the law types on your side, even if they're not hopping. And your ex is so patently in the wrong, he'll get his. It will take longer than is reasonable, but he'll get his.

Montana--

The child support may not arrive this week or next week, but come hell, high water, high school graduation or whatever since child support has been ordered by the court he will have to pay eventually.

Of course you need the money now.

Here in PA Delinquent Child Support is defined by Dollars Owed. This is particularly hard on low income custodial parents. For them $2000 is Untold Riches and $1000 is at least half of Untold Riches.

The machinery is in motion--believe. Meanwhile, document all your telephone conversations (and save the phone bills with the toll charges).

Hold your dominion.

Yeah, you hold your dominion, Montana. Meanwhile I'll get his legs and Noddy can get his arms.

.......1........2.........3.........WHOOOOOOSH! Off the top floor of the tallest building in Boston he goes! Wheeeeeeeeeee~~~~~!!!

Oh look....he's flapping his arms. He must be waving at us! Let's wave back. 'BYE-eee!!!!! Oh well, he's so far down there now he can't see us.

Oops...Noddy, look...there's an open manhole down there in the street right where he's going to land. I guess we should have looked first, huh? I think it's an entrance to the sewer system. Yep, it is. And I hear the Boston sewers are filled with snakes and alligators. Hmm...<clicking tongue>..sounds painful.

Oh good, he landed NEXT to the manhole instead of in it. But....OH NO!....a taxi ran over him! Ouch! And now an 18-wheeler! YIKES! And now a guy on a bike! And a little old lady just kicked him.......right into the manhole!

Did you notice the tread patterns across his back, Noddy? Quite lovely, really.

I suppose what's left of him will end up in Boston Harbor. That's great. He can feed the fishies. Speaking of which...I'm hungry. Let's go get some seafood, okay? I lifted his credit cards before we threw him off the building.

Um....Montana, you coming? I know this great place on the waterfront where we can order lobster and watch the sewer drains empty out into the harbor. We'll toast your ex if we see any of his body parts float by. Doesn't that sound like fun?!

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The Goddess of Love is NOT amused.

I'm packing for my trip today (we leave early in the morning) but had to stop in here to see what was happening.

Soz
he's been paying, but he left out a week at the beginning of the month claiming he paid me an extra week in July in advance, haha! That man, in the last 17 years never ever piad me in advance and I'm always bitching because he's constantly late. The extra payment he's talking about was money he put in for our son for his birthday and he's going to go into court and say it was child support. Just when I don't think this scum bag can stoop any lower, he uses our sons birthday gift to try and scam me out of a weeks support.
I was far from happy on the phone with the clerks office today, but after they told me there was nothing I could do, I don't plan on doing anything else except for wait yet another month. (sigh)!!!!!!!

Noddy
Thanks so much for your continued support and I will hold my dominion ;-)

Eva
I wish you could see the huge grin you put on my face. That an awsome thought. Thanks :-D

Have a nice trip ;-)