Montana wrote:Yes, please do. I'm sitting at the edge of my seat waiting to hear what happens.
Oh most definitely, you all have been my sounding board, and helped me keep my sanity. I would not leave you hanging. :-)
Zacksmom--
You'll be in my thoughts.
thank you very much noddy
so where's the party montana! LOL
My ex goes back to court today where my child support is suppose to increase again.
Cross your fingers everyone ;-)
LOL. I just checked my account thinking my ex might deposit this weeks support early before the increase and he did just that. What a loser!
Montana--
"Loser", yes, but Loser with a little financial common sense which he may have passed on to your son.
Besides, you knew he was more attached to money than to love.
Hold your dominion.
Hopefully, he hasn't passed anything on to my son, except for his good looks ;-)
He certainly is more attached to his money than to love, as it's always been. He called our son last weekend and actually complained about the child support and told him that he was going to get a lawyer to have his payments lowered. He also told him that his wife almost threw him out because he has to pay more support. My son then told him off and no longer wants to speak to him.
My son doesn't need this in his life and is finally seeing his father for what he really is.
It's very sad really! I feel so bad for my son :-(
Montana--
You would feel worse if your son fell into the trap of idolizing the absent parent and incorporated his father's intra-personal attitudes into his own romantic and parental roles.
Losers is losers. Your son is a winner.
You're absolutely right Noddy. The thought of my son embracing his father and his evil ways is truly a scary thought!!! My son is nothing like his dead beat dad and I'm extremely grateful for that.
Thanks for standing by me and my son through it all (((Hugs))) :-D
Montana--
You're the sort of person for whom it is a pleasure to offer moral support.
Keep holding.
Thanks Noddy. You made my day :-D
Update
I got the call from court. They say my ex is in there crying that he needs more time. The guy who called said he saw right through the bullcrap and wants me to get my increase. He did ask if I was willing to give him 2 more weeks where he'd have to go back into court and I agreed. I did tell this guy that I was concerned about my child support not being consistant and he said that wasn't a problem and that if my ex wants to play that game, they'd just have him go into court often to make sure he was paying on time. This made me smile. He also said that he'd have it ordered that my ex go to his bank and set up a direct deposit of my support from his account to mine every week, so he couldn't use the "I couldn't make it to the bank" excuse he uses every time he's late. LOL! Another smile. I like this guy, as he is surely on my side.
My ex still has to go in front of the judge, so maybe the order will go into effect today. Now I wait for another call from the courts telling me what happened.
Montana--
He's on your side--also the side of truth and justice and enforcing the rights of children.
Proud Mama Moments: My younger son was a biggish wheel of a small personnel department is a rather large company. He informed me that he took great delight in seeing that all divorced fathers in his dominion were paying child support--on time.
Let's hear it for all the Good Guys.
Noddy
Thanks for telling me about your wonderful son. Yet another big smile crosses my face today :-D
The guy from court called back after my ex saw the judge. He said the judge was not pleased at all that my ex still wasn't working and gave him quite the lecture. He told him to get to work and gave him another court date of Aug 19th, so it looks like it'll be another three weeks before I get my increase, I hope. I think 17 years is a long enough wait.
Legal stuff never happens as fast as it should. But at least it's happening! Congratulations on finding a guy in the system that will work on your behalf! (I'm sure they've seen it all.) YAY!!!!
Sorry that your son had to suffer through that conversation with his despicable deadbeat of a dad. It's a real tribute to you that he can see through all that crap at the age of 17. After all, how old were you when you figured it out?! (I'm no better...it took me 'til 24 in my case.)
Eva
The only thing I'm worried about now is that my ex's unemployment will run out by the time he goes back into court in 3 weeks and I'm afraid he might be scamming something else, like maybe some kind of disability. I know he's already seeing a shrink for stuff, so I'm afraid he's going to try to play that card.
It is sad for my son, but good in the way that he knows that the man can't be trusted. He swears that he'll never be anything like his father and I couldn't ask for anything more. That's my boy :-D
Call up that guy at court and tell him your suspicions about the unemployment and the shrink. Forewarned is forearmed.
I don't know his name, but he gave me his fax number. I already told him that my ex has been pulling these scams for the past 17 years, so he knows.
See you at party 
