Child Support

Montana's mouth drops in awe!!!!

And such a great disguise! Who would possibly think...


Montana, my heart is with you. I'd go wring his neck for you myself, but I feel like a certain unnamed someone who's source I will not reveal, has a pretty good grasp and could prove more helpful.

Well, I just had one delightful visit from my Godchild on her way to Key West...what a trip.

Nah, ehBeth. You be the Spy Who Came in From the Cold.

With love from Letty

Thanks Squinney ;-)

I'm determined to get this settled and put behind me. I thought that it was over, but I should have known that with my ex, it won't be over until he no longer has to pay support. At this time next year I'll be working full time on a job that actually pays me, so atleast I won't be so dependant on that damn child support. I am sooooooo looking forward to that day in May when I'm finally free from this evil evil man. The day that I never ever have to deal with my ex again for as long as I live, will be a new beginning in my life. My son will be working and providing for himself and the only one I'll be left to provide for is myself and the first thing I'm saving for is a new car. This 18 year old car I'm driving now can only live so long and I'll be glad to put her out of her misery :-D

sneaky
Oh Montana. The frustration must be overwhelming--but that's what he's counting on. He wants to frustrate all your efforts and wear you down. Your ex always has some sneaky card up his sleeve to avoid his child support obligation.

Before, he claimed he was fired (or laid off) from his job. We don't know if that's true. He was probably working the entire time, but doing so "under the table." He could officially go back to his job anytime.

Now he's playing the "mental impairment disability" card. "I can't work now because I'm sick and need expensive anti-psychotic drugs." If he's a freaking nut case who can't hold down a job, why didn't he tell the judge this important fact the last time he was in court? Well . . . he just fabricated the entire thing to once again shirk his financial responsibilities.

The court cannot retroactively modify a child support order and cannot modify your ex's future support obligation based upon the deadbeat's recent fabrication. You go girl----collect that support----don't allow his "wear you down" tactics to actually wear you down. Be persistent!

I spent some time in family court. Amazing how little gets by the judges, but more amazing what some people try to pull.

There was one case of a little old black couple (literally, in their 70's, both only about 5'6 and maybe 125 lbs each.) They had seperated a couple of years before and he was to pay her alimony. He missed a couple of payments and she brought him to court. I don't remember exactly what his reason was, but the judge had the bailiff cuff him and take him on over to the jail.

Well, the judge saw my face and just sat back in his chair and smiled at me. "It's okay. He's no different than a hundred others. He'll find the money before he gets downstairs."

I watched the same kind of scene play out over and over again. I know it gets frustrating. And I know patience doesn't feed your child. But, in the end you will always be the winner and him the loser. Your son knows that. With time the court system really does work.

Debra
Yes, it is very frustrating as I've been dealing with this since my son was born. I went to court again to try and prevent him from playing these games so I could live my life without the burden of constantly having to chase him for my sons support, but it looks like I will have to deal with it until my son is finished high school. I do plan to do everything I can to stop him and I promised myself that I wouldn't let him wear me down. I just remind myself that in less than 2 years he will be out of my life forever and I push on. I will take every possible legal action against him for refusing to comply with the court order, because he won't be getting away with this on my clock any longer ;-)
Thanks for your support and advice. It's very much appreciated.

Squinney
I would have loved to be a fly on the wall that day in court, lol!

I know that the day will come soon enough where I won't have this burden and when that day comes, I'm going to celebrate my total freedom. Cutting the cord with the SOB is going to by a fine day on the Montana ranch ;-)

Thanks so much for your advice and support as well. You guys are the greatest! :-D

wage withholding


You don't need to appeal! There's a way to fix the problem with the late support payments. Does your child support judgment contain a wage withholding order?

Commonwealth of Massachusetts, Department of Revenue, Child Support Enforcement, Home Page:

http://www.cse.state.ma.us/

FAQ:
http://www.cse.state.ma.us/faq/faq.htm

Under Link: "Noncustodial parent lives in Massachusetts"

"If the noncustodial parent has a job, the judge must order the noncustodial parent's employer to take the child support directly out of his or her paycheck and send it to us. This is called a wage or income assignment."

See also GENERAL LAWS OF MASSACHUSETTS
CHAPTER 119A. CHILD SUPPORT ENFORCEMENT

"Each such judgment or order for support shall include a provision for immediate withholding of income . . . ."

http://www.mass.gov/legis/laws/mgl/119a-12.htm

If there is no such order in your child support judgment, you can contact MA Child Support Enforcement and they will set it up for you! If you inform your ex that his paychecks can be garnished, he might be more willing to do what you asked in the first place.

There is no order in the judgement. All the order states is that he is to make the payments into my account. I don't even know who his employer is. Also, I still haven't recieved the new order from the court, so I'm kind of in limbo at the moment. Threatening my ex hasn't gotten me anywhere so far, so I give up on trying to deal with him. Thanks so much for the links Debra. I wanted to get the DOR involved when I went to court, but since things were still pending until last month, I couldn't do it. I didn't realize that I could get them involved without the courts. Only problem now is figuring out how to find out where he's working, because I know my ex won't give me that information. I would be much more comforable having the DOR watching my back.
You're awesome Debra! Thank you very much!

Grrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!!!! Today is 3 weeks since I've gotten anything. I've been calling his house twice a day for a week, but his wifes kids kept telling me he wasn't home. His wife called me back today and said he wasn't living there anymore and hasn't been for a week. She claims he's not working, but she has no idea where he is, so it looks like I'm back to square one. I can't afford to make the trip down there to file contempt charges until I start working full time in May. It looks like it's going to be a very long winter. The last time his wife said he wasn't living there anymore, she was lying, so that's that.

Damn damn damn damn damn!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Montana--

Contact the MA courthouse on Monday. This guy isn't the first talented con artist they've seen--and he's not nearly as smart as some they've caught. Unfortunately, unless you let them know that the court order is being disregarded they can't do anything.

Have you talked to the people in Canada yet? Believe me, the system is on your side, but you have to use the system.

I haven't spoken with the people from Canada yet because I'm waiting to get the court order in the mail. I called the court yesterday and they said the order was mailed out a week ago, so I should be getting it anytime now. I can call the court again Monday and tell them, but I know that they will just tell me that I'll have to file contempt charges and go back to court. I'm also going to call the DOR to see if they will suggest anything. I really can't do much until I have the court order, but I will start making phone calls 1st thing Monday. I know that they'd like to help me, but I honestly don't think there's anything I can do unless I go back to court to get the DOR involved and even then, it says on their site that I'd have to be available for court whenever needed. Either way, I'll see what I can do.
It's Thanksgiving here Monday and it looks like it's going to be a very long winter.

Don't despair, Montana. Get ready for one more fight.

I'm trying not too. I'd love to file contempt now and go down there to take care of things, but I won't be able to make that trip until next year. I'm starting to think that there will never be an end to this.

I know the laws differ from State to State, but I also know that on the fringes of Mr. Noddy's family, the two deadbeat daddies who fled to Florida to avoid paying child support were shown the expensive error of their ways by the PA courts.

Your residence in Canada may complicate your case, but I can't believe it would negate it.

Thanks Noddy. I'll keep that in mind.

Monday is a holiday here.

****! I forgot. It's Thanksgiving here.

S'ok, there's always tuesday! Sorry about all the problems you're having. Want me to see if I can get some prison guards to scare him?