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Fri 9 Sep, 2011 10:39 am
There's this girl I met in a nursing program in the fall of last year. The very first time I saw her face, it was around the beginning of the semester and myself and her and a couple of other class members where having a conversation and she brought it up that she had a husband.
About 2 days after that group conversation, she was always walking pass where I sat in class and she would make eye contact with me and smile at me, and of course, I would always smile back. Anytime I come to class, she would always start a short conversation with me. There was a time that she asked if I could sit next to her in order to help her out during class discussion because she thought there was this teacher that was supposed to teach us that day and this teacher is always randomly picking on people to answer questions; so I told her it wasn't that particular teacher that was mean't to teach us that day, and then I went to my regular seat to sit down.
Midway through the semester, I came to school a couple of minutes before classtime and there was a textbook for a new course that needed to be bought and she was the one who gave me heads up about it, she then voluntarily followed me all the way to the bookstore and back to the classroom. During our walk to and from the bookstore, we talked about how cool we thought the program was and she laughed about something I said. We talked like we had been friends for a while.
A few days after that, I asked for her number and she gladly gave it to me and she introduced me to a friend she was talking to. She also told the friend how funny I was. After class, she texted me right away asking how I was. From then on, we kept texting back and forth. Everytime in class, we would chat during break time. She even hugged me a few times and calling me darling.
Towards the end of the semester, I failed the class due to my tardiness during my clinical rotation so I had to redo the course again. I told her about this and she sounded so sympathetic and asking if I was okay. It was christmas and she wished me a merry christmas and said she was so happy that she met me.
A few days before the beginning of the spring semester this year, I texted her and told her she must be excited to be going back to school and she texted me back with a close-ended response like "yea pretty much" and I was wondering why she responded that way. I then decided to see what would happen if I didn't text back after that and she never ever again texted me back. At first, i was trying to figure out what drew her to me in the first place. I was asking myself like was it because she thought I was a smart guy in class and then thought I was no good because I failed the fall semester last year. I then deleted her contact from my phone.
And all the times that we've texted each other, I was the one who texted first majority of the times. I've never once actually called her, nor did she ever call me and I just assumed that she was scared about her husband getting suspcious and defensive
Sometime during this summer, I emailed her and she responded like she was soooo excited and I jokingly responded back saying "oh it's been a while huh, is that all you can say, after all this time" and she jokingly responded back to my email. I sent her another email and she never responded back
So what do you guys make of this? You think she was just leading me on for attention?
@davesoprano,
Don't know, but did you pass the course the second time?
@Mame,
Doesn't even sound like she's leading him on.
What? She talks to him.
@chai2,
Oh please, feel free to continue your own little private conversation on my own post, the both of you
@davesoprano,
Look, she's married, so you have no future with her. Who cares why and what she was doing? We'll never know, and she probably doesn't know, either.
And people talk to each other in threads all time time, so get over it.
@davesoprano,
davesoprano wrote:
Oh please, feel free to continue your own little private conversation on my own post, the both of you
She probably realised, like we have just done, (see above) that you are a dick.
@davesoprano,
So what are your intentions? To have an affair with a married woman? To potentially break up a marriage and quite possibly a family if she has kids she hasn't told you about?
You don't seem like a nice guy or a smart one seeing how well you have been doing in school and your trying to sleep with a married woman.
@davesoprano,
What?
I was addressing that to you. Wow, I'm sorry I clicked "reply" on the last post, rather than "reply all"
Where has this woman done anything to lead you on? She talks to you.
@contrex,
contrex wrote:
davesoprano wrote:
Oh please, feel free to continue your own little private conversation on my own post, the both of you
She probably realised, like we have just done, (see above) that you are a dick.
wow, good thing you addressed that to the OP, or I would have thought you were talking to me.
We can't have that going on now. Stay in your compartment. Don't even look over the wall.
@chai2,
Hey wait....I don't have a dick.
@chai2,
Oh crap.
Now I'm talking to myself.
@chai2,
lol you see what you caused.
Well anyhew, now that that little misunderstanding is over, yes, she was talking to me all the time for a while. Like I said, she would always pass where I sat in class, look right in my eyes and smile and I would smile back.
@davesoprano,
Wait ... you think exchanging text messages with a married woman means she likes you ? She was simply replying back ...
Also, why do you want a relation with a married woman ? You were wondering why She didnt e-mail you back? well ... it's obvious , isnt it? :
"oh it's been a while huh, is that all you can say, after all this time" makes you sound like a freak ...
@Linkat,
Linkat, did you not see what I wrote? I said she would hug me sometimes and call me darling without me attempting to hug her first.
I've never been a dick to her, ever. I've always had that clownish quality when I'm with her.
And no, I would never sleep with a married woman because it is just too wrong, adultery is not my thing at all. I am merely just curious to know what her deal was, that's all; as in why all the flirtatious smiles and hugs when she's a married woman
And by the way, I am about to get my degree in Masters in health administration this december so I'm not altogether a lousy human being if thats what you were implying
@davesoprano,
But it wasn't necessarily flirtatious.
This is why women love gay men, we can be
friendly without it becoming this whole thing.
(It might have been flirtatious, I'm not saying it definitely wasn't. But from what you said, it's not definite that it was, either.)
@davesoprano,
Then why are you asking these questions? If you are not interested in pursuing anything, then why do you care how she acts?
Some women are just flirting and some are cheaters - so if you don't intend to do anything with her - what does it matter whichever one she is?
Dave
Congratulations! You have survived almost being manipulated by a flirtatious, seductive, married woman. Chalk it up to experience.
WHY did she flirt? Probably because she could and you came off as the perfect 'victim.' Some women love the power of being able to seduce men, married or not. Most likely you were one of many she used that term.
Now you know. Learn from it and go on.
Good luck.
@davesoprano,
davesoprano wrote:
she would always pass where I sat in class, look right in my eyes and smile and I would smile back.
ohhhh.....she made EYE contact. On top of that she actually Smiled.
wow, that's totally different.
Were some of her smiles with her lips closed?
That means "shh...don't tell anyone, this affair is our secret"
The other times, when she showed her teeth, well I don't even want to say in mixed company what THAT means. (wink wink, nudge nudge, know what I mean? Nods as good as a wink to a blind man.)
Is she interested in photography? Snap shots? (she asked him knowingly)
@PUNKEY,
Thank you, THIS was the answer I was looking for, or at least something along the lines of it.
Now we can all put this bickering to bed
@davesoprano,
Excuse me, maybe we want to bicker. Some people start threads just to get a good bicker going. Or we'll bicker amongst ourselves in other people's threads. That's always good for a bicker with the OP.
When a really good bicker gets going, other people bring chairs and popcorn... didja know that?