@voiceindarkness,
Hiya Voice
I'm going to answer you this way.
When I moved house, recently. My neighbour two doors down who is a single Mother with two teenagers struggling, was given bags of clothes, hand bags, plates, quilts, outdoor setting, bbq, jewelery, all things that I would have taken to the Goodwill, as we downsized I had to get rid of alot of things.. As she is struggling it was like Christmas to her and it made me feel good.
Her son, through talk, wanted skateboard wheels... I asked him to turn up the next day and help me move and I'd give him $50.. See you at 10am. At 10am, he turned up on the dot, smiling and helped all day, smiling, no complaints...I gave him the $50. I asked him, how much these things cost. He said $70. I asked him how he was going to get the remaining $20, he said he would have to sell somethings off but didn't know what. I have him a bowl of coins and said, there should be at least $20 in there..
The next day his Mother said, he sat there all night counting them, combined with the $50, he had $98. She told him to return the difference, he said he didn't want to, he was so excited but knew he had to.. I told her, no, tell him to turn up at 10am tomorrow for 2 hrs. He did, smiling and helped without moaning and left 3hrs later.
I need to sell another house to know I'm safe for another month, I am fine for a month and a half so far, every cent helps, $100 would have been a weeks food shopping.
Do I value money more than giving?
Love.
Is when, you don't put yourself first, rather others. You don't value money more, than others.
Another tale as you bring "brother" into it.
It was my brother's birthday and mother's this weekend. I rang both.
My brother was very negative, and was turning every conversation into a negative and putting me down, for no reason.. My dog is diabetic and as we arranged to meet up at my parents, I asked my brother to try to turn up by 4.30pm, as I would have to leave due to getting home to inject Kia. His reply was put the dog down, I have kids, you don't radarada and mine was a metaphore of his kids, which he usually would have laughed at, instead he yelled, swore and was quite nasty.
I told him, "it's your birthday go and have a good day" and handed the phone over to my fiance.... He didn't ring and apologise.. I turned up at the family home, left at 5pm, he hadn't arrived...nor my kids "his kids", they were running late.
When he got there, he opened his presents but before that, his card. It was one that I had bought before this arguement. It was of two children playing on the beach and words basically of , love for my brother then and now.. I wrote a notation, " I believe family is important, through stressful times and good, I hope this year is one of happiness for you"....
He rang me and stated, "you bought that card before the arguement didn't you" I said yes. He apologised and stated that he is under alot of stress at the moment, financially and realised he took it all out on me.
The bottom line there is, I love my brother, I knew when he went off that it wasn't me, that it was stress and I coped it.. I could have ignored him for months for what he said, how he reacted, but instead I still gave him that card, and made a notation, one that he realised immediately.
That's love.
But I get what you are saying.
1. People use the word flippently
2. People are greedy and their love is for material things, which is made up of money.
So, do I know, yes Mr Voice, I do.. And have I found myself, I've told you before, with age comes wisdom, with wisdom comes understanding and I am at peace with myself, love myself but not "up myself" and love full stop. Always have. Regardless of what has been taken from me.
I didn't have to think about it:)