over-reaction?

http://able2know.org/topic/163808-2

This was from the same job. I also did all these other stuff at the end of this thread. btw, the shift manager added me on her facebook when she first started at that store Dec. '09 and that was when I was kicking ass. After I sassed her like that, my folks made me send her a FB message apologizing. She accepted it but I'm just angry that Kyra/Katy (same person) liked her and not me.

You need to get a life and quit focussing on the little stuff. Why do you care if she likes you or not? Get a grip on yourself. She's just one person. And clean up your attitude and your mouth. If you won't get help for your anger issues, at least keep your lip zipped. You're offending people all over the workplace and they have a right to a harassment-free work zone so cut it out. I'm surprised you haven't been let go.

This is from my other thread:

"Ok so...at first, most people used to talk to me. In fact, when I first started, every single person talked to me but ONE girl. Now, I have a problem with anyone not liking me. idk y, but I can't accept that not everyone's gonna like me, so I riase hell whenever someone don't. No one is liked by everyone, but I have to be to keep my sanity.

I'll call her Kyra. Kyra liked most other ppl but not me. One day, I begged her and tried to pay her money, which she turned down. They called corporate on me and told me firmly that's unacceptable. That was when other ppl started avoiding me. For an anger outlet, I treated other ppl like sh*t and got written up. When my boss said 2 more write ups and I'm gone, I flicked her off when she turned around (she never ound out.) Then it got to the point I stared at Kyra on my days off and got asked to leave bc I "stalked" her. She was afraid I'ma do something, so she had 2 other ppl add me on FB to watch me.

Finally, I screamed at my boss publicly bc my rage needs outlet. That really sealed the deal. Aside from 2 weeks suspension and ending up w/ on-call hours when I returned, I got completely ostracized. This was a team based environment, but coworkers even refused to lend me a hand when I needed it, slowing down my work. Three weeks after I returned from suspension, I quit. Can anyone tell me why those who used to talk to me ended up ostracizing me?

I remember also windexing Andrea's coat bc Kyra's her friend.

When Kyra gave a few coworkers boxes of chocolate for christmas, I stole a few from them.

Kyra didn't like some of the ppl she's currently friends with. Jane told me Kyra hated her for months until she accidnetly made coffee wrong and burned ppl and Kyra thought it was funny. Anyway, I purposely made coffee wrong and burned myself, but Kyra just got disgusted.

After I quit, Kyra even go out to eat with coworkers outside work. I tried to add her to FB but she ignored me."

I already quit that job and am frustrated that I couldn't find new ones even after 12 interviews.

Sadly, I don't even know what to say to that.

DD, u need SAFER rage outlets; like some that will not hurt u.

That 's NO joke. Be nice in speaking to people
so that thay will not get mad at u. I wish u good luck.





David

Nope. They are not overreacting. Your words are just not friendly. :p

Welcome, barkingmoon.

YOU CANNOTUSE YOUR COWORKERS AS AN "OUTLET " FOR YOUR ANGER. If you do, you'll be canned quickly, no matter where you work. And if you have to use references from previous jobs to get new ones, you're going to have a string of references that detail your problems with anger. You are going to have to find some way to modify your behavior and not take it out on the people around you.

I admit I saw this and thought of Dirrtydozen:

Woman Burns Friends House Down After She Deleted Her Off Facebook[/b]
http://zombieapocalypseacademy.org/2011/zombie-apocalypse-academy/woman-burns-friends-house-down-after-she-deleted-her-off-facebook/

No they did not.
Rather, you have used hateful words for no good reason, insulted and abused your co-workers for no good reason, and created drama and conflict for no good reason.

You do get angry easily, and 'unless someone don't like me for no reason' is not a very poor reason to get angry.

You abuse people who like you, and pander to people who don't like you...all because one person didn't like you (the one you are attempting to manipulate into liking you)? That's nasty, manipulative and twisted.

That is THAT bad - by saying that you show that you have no respect for management, and that you are impossible to work with. This is an incredibly bad situation for any business to be in...do you understand why?

Quite frankly, I'm very surprised that you haven't been fired. How do you expect a business to be productive, when you are causing so much conflict and emotional disruption?

Do you understand that the primary reason for the existance of any business is to make money? It is not 'an organised social gathering'. Social interaction is there, and helps when it focuses people towards the business' goals it is a good thing...but your 'input' disrupts that greatly, and is not good for business.

Probably she was building up towards hating you. Probably, given the things you admit to saying - most people at your workplace secretly detest you, but won't say so to your face.

Personally, if you can afford it - I'd consider getting professional help, because you claim to be hard to anger, while spewing hateful words for no good reason at all, and then think others are at fault for overreacting.

Given your behaviour - Were I your manager - I would do everything in my power to fire you.

22,
If u opened a business, your own business,
and u hired an employee who acted the same as U do,
how woud u respond to that ??





David