One reason I stuck with such a brutally simple word (lies) is that the lies we tell kids are probably not quite as harmless as we think. If you look at what adults told children in the past, it's shocking how much they lied to them. Like us, they did it with the best intentions. So if we think we're as open as one could reasonably be with children, we're probably fooling ourselves. Odds are people in 100 years will be as shocked at some of the lies we tell as we are at some of the lies people told 100 years ago.
You are the prettiest girl/most handsome boy in the world
The existence of Santa, the Easter Bunny and Tooth Fairy
Do this or you’re not going to get “your birthday/Christmas/family vacation
Mommy and daddy are taking a “nap”
Eating your vegetables will make you grow up big and strong
If you play with your privates too much, they’ll drop off
If you keep making that awful face, your face will stay that way for always.
The police arrest children who swear
You're going to do great things some day.
That sleepaway camp was for my benefit, not theirs.
That good people eventually succeed, and that bad people will ultimately be held accountable.
My mom used to tell me that if I misbehaved, she was going to call the cops and have them take me away. She would then proceed to pick up the phone and dial.
"We love you very much"
If you drink a lot of milk, you'll grow to be really tall.
"If you pick your nose, your head will cave in."
If you sneeze, fart, cough and blink at the same time, you will explode. It happens all the time. So don't be surprised to if walk in a room to find someone's spontaneously exploded.
'Father Christmas only comes to good little children'
Can you recall any lies (or not exactly truths) that your parents told you that you think were completely harmless, fun even?
Are there any lies you were told as a child which you believe were harmful, or confusing, or hurtful to you? Why do you think they told you these untruths?
Do you think that adults should be truthful to children at all times?
The whole business about being special and destined for greatness. Not only is that an unrealistic goal for most children, but it isn't even a goal worth seeking out.
We tell students that that can achieve all sorts of things, that anything is possible, if they work hard enough.
The fact is, this isn't true at all.
Not EVERYONE is going to reach the giddy heights of success.
This is so obvious in the real world.
But parents & teachers keep saying these things.
you are lying by omission..
When my kids were small we did a lot of camping in a tent trailer -- not exactly an animal-proof structure. My oldest was particularly worried about bears. We told him there were no bears on Manitoulin Island because it was too far for them to swim from the mainland. Then, one day, we hit a bear...
Francis wrote:That is an oxymoronic contradiction in terms.you are lying by omission..