I Kinda HATE my life

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I Am Currently In 8th Grade. My whole life has been good. I went to school with the same small group of people up untill 7th grade. I stayed a half of a year before i had to transfer schools because I moved. I got to my new school and liked it alot. I loved my new neighborhood and was friends with every one.

My best friend in the neighborhood Was (Lets say person 1) And she introduced me to my future best friend. Person 2. By The Time summer came i had two main best friends. They really werent friends though. My BEST friend. Like a step higher was person 3. The whole summer i had a blast. I could wait for the new school year.

When the new school year started i sat with all of my friends from my neighborhood at lunch. It was all good untill near xmas time when I was better friends with P2 Than P3. People in my neighborhood were telling me that P2 hated me. I didnt beleive them. but then a whole bunch of other people kept telling me tht p2 was talking about me. One day i asked and P2 said "NO!? i would never" I beleived her.\

But then she chatted me on fb after winter break ended. "Hi. Listen. I really dont wanna hang out with you anymore. I am moving on. Bye" I got so sad. And the worse part was that I had to sit next to her at lunch. I got there and Sat next to P3 Who was now my best friend. I sat and ate my lunch akwardly because P2 sat right across from me. I was talking to P3 when P1 Made a comment. "I know whos a slut.! Look right next to P3.! No one likes her" Right to my face. WTF.

I thought it might get better but it got worse. P3 (My best friend that i spoiled with money and trips) was not friends with P2. she hated her. But then to make me jealous P2 Became Friends With my Best Friend P3. For a while I wasnt very happy With P3 because p2 allways talked about her but they were becomeing better friends than me and p3. I Was PISSED. I moved lunch tabes and will never be friends with them again.

Now Its terrible. I Have no where to sit at lunch because Another Girl P5 Is spreading a rumor to everyone that i broke her ipod and i wont pay for it when i didnt break it. Now a bunch of people HATE me. There is currently no where to sit. I have had to go to the school councelr.

I Think That I Am Going to Transfer schools, But I have SO many good friends at my school right now. I just Dont Know What to do.

How to solve it.?

Should I change schools.?

What do I do for lunch..?

I Really Hate my life Right now.

The Worst Part.

P3 And I arent friends anymore because of p1 p2 and p5.

She stole my expensive jeans From me and is lieing to me telling me that its her sisters. Smfh.

Well I hope shes pissed because my familly hates her, I have her Precoius Make-Up at my house and her new best friends [P2]'s Cell Phone And I am not Giving them back untill I get My JEans.

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[+3] - Mame - 02/13/2011God is only the answer if you're inclined that way, and not everyone is. Stop your preaching as if it's the answer for everyone - it's not.

@PotentiallyMe,

Do NOT run, there is BS everywhere in life so stay and learn to deal with it. If you let people push you around you will be a mark for every bully around, if you keep letting people push you off your ground (in this case push you out of your school) you will never be able to build anything in life.

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OK - I think you need to just PAUSE.

How much power are you going to GIVE AWAY to these people?

Are you going to let THEM rule your life?

Time to get some NEW friends and stop trying to please these people.

Be the bigger person and return ALL the stuff, with a smile on your face and tell them YOU are moving on.

Then make a promise to yourself that you are going to find another set of friends.

Sit at a new table every day until you find people you click with.

Life is good and there are lots of people who would like to get to know you.

PS Leave your family out of all this drama. This is YOUR life.
You are going to be OK Smile

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@PotentiallyMe,

Don't hate your life... It is the only one you have, or will ever have... If you hate something about your life, isolate it, and fix it, one at a time...

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@PotentiallyMe,

Hi PotentiallyMe,

A couple of things.

PotentiallyMe wrote:

(My best friend that i spoiled with money and trips)

This worries me a bit. Why did you spoil her? Did she do the same for you? Did you feel like she wouldn't be friends with you if you didn't spoil her?

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For a while I wasnt very happy With P3 because p2 allways talked about her but they were becomeing better friends than me and p3. I Was PISSED. I moved lunch tabes and will never be friends with them again.

This part sounds like something you could control, something that you did yourself. It doesn't sound like P2 did anything actually bad to you, just just was friends with P3. People can have several friends at once, right?

Maybe you can approach P2 again and see if you can patch things up?

Holding her phone hostage because of the jean situation with P3 seems unfair.

That said, one more thing:

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But I have SO many good friends at my school right now.

That seems to render the rest moot. If you have a bunch of good friends at school right now, why not just focus on them and ignore P2 and P3?

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Hello hon... I think what you're going through is very normal as a new girl in school. They don't have a history with you and they are more loyal to those they know, even if they 'hate' them. My daughter went through the very same thing at your age and my heart bled for her, as it does for you. Girls often do this to one another... I don't know why, but it happens. Happened to lots of my sisters, too. Sometimes it blows over and sometimes it doesn't. Really, best thing is if you just did your own thing, eat by yourself while reading a book, or sit with those other friends you say you have. Transferring to a new school is no guarantee that it won't happen again, so just try to deal with it where you are. This kind of thing also happens at work a lot, so you need to know what to do when that happens. This is a good learning ground for you. You sure learn a lot more in school than just math and science!

I am glad you're not going to return those items until you get your things back. You have to stand up for yourself and I'm glad you're doing that.

One thing to remember - whatever comes out of somebody's mouth is all about THEM, not YOU. If they're saying nasty things about you, it's because THEY'RE nasty, not because YOU are. And it's funny, but whenever we hear someone talk like that, we always think those same things about the person saying it. So, not everybody will believe them, trust me.

Good luck, see the counsellor, find some new pals, and keep coming back here, honey.

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@PotentiallyMe,

Read the "Qu'ran" And look how much worse life can be, and how if you're patient have faith in Allah and stay strong, He will guide you through hard times in life and bring you peace when none can be found.

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Hey, this is just life. The solution to this so-called problem is to get very busy with things, sports, music lessons, chorus, etc. anything where kids gather, enjoying their talents and each other.

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@Ali phil,

She's in Grade 8, for Pete's sake!

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@Mame,

Mame wrote:

She's in Grade 8, for Pete's sake!

So she can't try find god?
If she does'nt theres no change, if she does she will have a whole lot of sisters there for her when ever.

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@Ali phil,

Why should she? Please go and hold your sermon someplace else.
No one wants to find Allah or God, none of these religious beliefs solve anything. If it eases your conscience, then you're a simple fool, don't assume
everyone is though.

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@PotentiallyMe,

Sweetie, trust me, the minute you're in high school it will be all better.
7th and 8th grades are tough on students academically and emotionally.
There is so much hormone flow going around, it's enough to make your head
spin.
Just try to stay out of gossip and be friendly to everyone, and the whole thing will blow over in no time. That's the advice I've given my own daughter last year when she was in 8th grade last year. Hang in there, sweetie, it will get better!

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@CalamityJane,

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Why should she? Please go and hold your sermon someplace else.
No one wants to find Allah or God, none of these religious beliefs solve anything. If it eases your conscience, then you're a simple fool, don't assume
everyone is though.

WOW! That there is quite the prejudiced screed..Please dont ever claim that you practice tolerance.

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@Ali phil,

God is only the answer if you're inclined that way, and not everyone is. Stop your preaching as if it's the answer for everyone - it's not.

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@Mame,

Was just a suggestion...
But i guess my opinion and suggestion, isn't relevent because it involves somthing you don't personaly believe in..
How do you know it wont work for her..
If she doesnt want to (likly) she can ignore my post..
Why you feel inclined to attack my personal opinion is the only forcefull post here, this is to the two negetive posters on my simple comment.
If you hate religion thats fine, but that doesn't make it wrong, or a un-helpful comment. Why are you filled with so much pride that you say religious people are fools..

Allah is just Arabic for God, Clearly you don't understand.

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Ali -

It's offending because you implied that UNLESS she finds YOUR god, there is no solution.

That's quite elitist.

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@Ali phil,

Are there any specific passages that you have in mind that PotentiallyMe can refer to?

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@PUNKEY,

I fail to see where my origional statement had any implications that it was the only way..
I also fail to see how it was elietist in anyway..
The Qu'ran like the bible has many story of people in terrible hardship who find peace and contentment in god, as a motivator and strenght booster. If you have a problem with people getting motivation from religion you're the only narrow minded one in this conversation.
My statement had no illusion to religion being the only way to find happyness.
She could also meditate.
Read a self help book.
Join a music group, book club, sports club etc etc.
Do you find these Suggestions elietist?
Or is only religion elietist..?
Hmmmm
You've been looking with too much personal perspective and assumption.
Sorry if i made you feel some how less eliet...

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@InfraBlue,

Im sorry what are you requesting?

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@Ali phil,

In regard to PotentiallyMe's problems at school, and how she might deal with them, what are the specific passages in, or even Suras of, the Qur'an, that speak to her problems?

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