Love Gone Wrong

Uh, there are no details here whatsoever.

I realize you want to maintain some measure of privacy but there are probably a few thousand lisa g's out on the Internet. So, without names and places, can you provide a lil more detail for us to go on?

Indeed, no one will be able to help you without knowing more about your relationship than that.

See the following which is duplicate question with slightly more detail:

http://able2know.org/topic/165644-1#post-4451408

Unfortunately this is a difficult question to answer in short form. The 'easiest' way is to go and see a counsellor together. If he says 'we aren't that bad' (because I doubt he will want to see a counsellor)...from what you describe it 'is' that bad, even if some part of you is currently excusing that behaviour (so you will have to contradict him, and insist - for the sake of the survival of your marriage, and your self esteem)

The long term solution is to know what you want from a relationship, recognise when it's not happening, and learn respectful and deep rooted assertiveness...but that can be a very difficult thing to achieve.

do you feel like you are walking on eggshells all the time, do you feel like he is playing mind games with you ?