Not everyone is gonna like you

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originally wanted to title it "she made me do it" but that doesn't fit.

Anyway, I can't accept that. Don't get me wrong. Most people do like me. I'm just pissed that a few people don't.

No one in the entire world will be liked by everyone. If so, why can't I accept that not everyone will like me? If I'm just short one person, I'd end up incessantly begging and giving her money. When I couldn't successfully beg her to like me, I'd go mental and be a b*tch to everyone else. That's y I left school, got canned from Wal-Mart, and quit my last job. When a coworker didn't wanna be friends w/ me at Wal-Mart, I yelled at another coworker over a cart of returns and banged my head against a fitting room pole. At school, a classmate won't be my friend, so I begged her and quit, not to mention lose it and lash out several times beforehand.

Truth to be told, the only reason I screamed at my boss in front of customers at my last job (McD's) was cuz a coworker didn't like me no matter how I begged. Then when I got sent home 2 weeks, I blamed her for "making me do it." When I told my boss my coworker made me yell at her, she didn't buy it. HOw come everyone else could deal when someone don't like them, but I can't handle it? Why doesn't it bother anyone else?

My whole life, I insisted that EVERYONE I meet be my friend. I couldn't accept that no one in the entire world will be liked by everyone. There was shitload of people at school/work and only 3 disliked me, but it's enough to fvck up my life badly. I don't care about the many people that liked me. I only care about the few that don't or my life won't be complete.

Now at the thrift store, a girl doesn't wanna be my friend. It's fvcking up my life all over again. can't eat. can't sleep. just obsessing

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@dirrtydozen22,

Well, you're recognizing that this is obsessive behavior. Which is good.

Now. Lemme tell ya.

Not being liked is, as you know, a part of the territory. Know where/how you really don't get liked? When you stick your neck out.

Unpopular opinions will do that, too.

I imagine the only people who are liked by a huge, overwhelming majority of people are the ones who act to please everyone, and don't show opinions or thoughts of their own, so as to assure that no one can ever have a bad word to say about 'em.

I think you're smarter than that. And I think you've got better things to do with your time than try to just please everyone.

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@jespah,

So ur saying that it's not a good thing for everyone to like ou either. Now that I understand, I concur. There are many type of people in the world and some type just don't fit me or anyone else. When I get back to the thrift store, I'll at leat practice not caring about the girl who don't like me.

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@dirrtydozen22,

There ya go. Eh, if everyone liked ya, wouldn't it mean skeery white supremacists would? Serial killers? Wayne Newton fans?

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Question DD...

Do you like everyone?

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Here we go again. Ask yourself: Has this happened before?

You have been told to consider co-workers just that. Nothing more, nothing less. Just people you work with. Try to get along.

Find your friends and fuzzy feelings outside of work.

Do you have a church, social club, other friends?

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@chai2,

I like everyone unless they offended me BADLY. idk, maybe like escapist said, I prolly need validation or something.

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I don't like everybody and god knows not everybody likes me. C'est la vie. Such is life.
I know I couldn't be bothered to like someone if they didn't like me. I actually can't be bothered to think about them. I think you have to develop a thicker skin and learn to take life and people as they come.
I can guarantee that the people you are obsessing over probably don't give you a second thought, so why do you give them more than they give you?

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@dirrtydozen22,

dirrtydozen22 wrote:

I like everyone unless they offended me BADLY. idk, maybe like escapist said, I prolly need validation or something.

seriously?

you like EVERYbody?

I simply don't believe that.

From the moment you get up, until the moment you fall asleep, everyone you come across, everyone you think about, you actually Like?

You don't feel, oh, let's say no way at all about even one person?

When you walk down the street, and a stranger is standing on the other side of the road, you actually "like" them?

Do you like pedophiles, rapists, thieves and murderers, since they haven't offended you specifically, and BADLY at that?

You're not very discriminating, are you?

Let's get real DD....most people that come your way every day you don't even think about, and they don't think about you.

Giving someone money is going to make them like you?

whooo boy.

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@Ceili,

Ceili wrote:

I don't like everybody and god knows not everybody likes me. C'est la vie. Such is life.
I know I couldn't be bothered to like someone if they didn't like me. I actually can't be bothered to think about them. I think you have to develop a thicker skin and learn to take life and people as they come.
I can guarantee that the people you are obsessing over probably don't give you a second thought, so why do you give them more than they give you?

Actually, there are people I like, but who don't like me, and vice versa.

That's ok, it's kinda cool.

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I remember obsessing over this same sort of thing when I was in my 20s. No matter how nice I was to certain people, no matter how many favors I did for them, they still talked trash about me behind my back.

It bothered me so much, I even told my mother about it. (One of the nicest people who ever lived.) She looked me squarely in the eye and said, "Well, whoever told you that everybody was going to like you?!"

Duh. I guess I forgot that.

NOBODY is liked by everyone. No matter WHAT you do.

So what did I do? I stopped worrying about whether people liked me. Yep, just stopped trying. If they do, fine. If they don't, it's on to the next one.

Funny thing. When I stopped trying to make people like me, I actually wound up with MORE friends. No doubt because I was more secure in myself and confident and less needy. I felt free to be my true self. And that attracts true friends.

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@Eva,

I see what you mean. When I worry about whether people like me or not, I be a bitch to everyone else, including those who do like me. That cause other ppl to hate me as well.

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Just treat everyone the way you would like to be treated, and your conscience will be clear. Ignore those who don't like you. It's their problem. There are millions more out there, and plenty of them will be friendly.

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Did someone say Wayne Newton?!

Danke Schoen, darling Danke Schoen.
Thank you for all the joy and pain.
Picture shows, second balcony, was the place we'd meet, second seat, go Dutch treat, you were sweet.

Danke Schoen, darling Danke Schoen.
Thank you for walks down lovers lane.
I can see, hearts carved on a tree, letters inter-twined, for all time, yours and mine, that was fine.

Danke Schoen, darling Danke Schoen.
Thank you for funny cards from Spain.
I recall, Central Park in fall, how you tore your dress, what a mess, I confess, that's not all.

Danke Schoen, darling Danke Schoen.
Thank you for seeing me again.
Though we go, on our seperate ways, still the memory stays, for always, my heart says, Danke Schoen.

Danke Schoen, Auf Wiedersehn, Danke Schoen.

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@InfraBlue,

"Why can't my boss understand that my coworker made me scream at her? Thing is, it just happened so fast. After I screamed at my boss, I told her my coworker made me do it and she just refused to buy it. That's y I got 2 week suspension instead of 1. I had no other choice. If my coworker agreed to be my friend like she agreed to be everyone else's friend, I wouldn't have screamed at my boss, who I needed to take it out on. Because my boss won't buy it, I had to bear ALL the responsibility instead of my coworker. She even deleted me from facebook. like wtf.

"As for school, they won't understand that my classmate made me curse people out. If SHE agreed to be my friend, I wouldn't have to take it out on these people. Same thing for Wal-Mart. The only reason I yelled at Melissa over a cart of returns is bc Emily won't be my friend. It's also y I banged my head against the pole."

I wrote this **** several months ago. Sounds ridiculous, doesn't it? Nobody MADE me do anything. People could dislike me but I had a choice to behave myself regardless.

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@dirrtydozen22,

That's right! You just took a big step toward maturity. You're seeing things more clearly now.

Now maybe you can understand why we were so frustrated with you! Laughing

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What kind of trouble do you get into for staring at someone you desperately wanna be friends with? I begged and paid her to be my friend, be a bitch to everyone else, and eventually went in on my days off to stare at that coworker. That coworker reported me to management for harassment and stalking and had another coworker add me to facebook to keep tabs on what I’m doing. Every time I begged and bribed and stared at her, I was asked to leave the building. Because of her, those who did like me initially joined the crowd of those who didn’t, esp after I screamed at my boss.

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@dirrtydozen22,

What the **** is wrong with you?

You stare, stalk and bribe someone, and your problems are "because of her?"

You know, you never responded to my prior post. I wasn't kidding.

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@chai2,

I'm not saying it's her fault. I'm just saying I was so desperate for her friendship that I resorted to that kind of action. As for your prevuious questions, no I din't like murderers or sex offenders bc that would count as offending me badly. I don't 'like' strangers I met on the street, but I would definitely be open to know them.

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@dirrtydozen22,

Well you're obviously bothering her, so leave her alone.

Learn to be discerning on who you pick to be your friends.

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