@snood,
Setanta said:
Quote:Pink . . . just a guess on my part.
To which Snood replied:
And Setanta - I'm not saying anything bad about what you said - it just reminded me of a sort of funny, although also enlightening story (as it presents cultural differences in the use of language to describe race):
I was working in a class in which about half the men were black (as I'd decribe them) Jamaicans and the other half of the men were white Brits from various places - Northern Ireland, Wales, England, Scotland.
So I introduced myself and asked everyone how they preferred to be referred to, knowing that in England, most people describe black people as 'colo(u)red' with no offense meant, and Welsh people often DON'T want to be called English, or even British - although British might be alright - you get the picture - it's easy to step on toes without meaning to.
So they asked me what I would call a black person and I said, 'Black,' because where I come from 'Colo(u)red' is considered a derogatory term.
The Jamaican guys then said, 'Yeah, we want to be called black.'
And then the white Irish guy said, 'I'm not calling you 'black'. I've never seen a black person in my life.'
And then Shabba, one of the Jamaican guys said, 'Well then you aint white - I'm calling you the 'pink bloke' from now on...'
And we all just laughed and laughed and called Mark the 'pink bloke' whenever we had to describe him - as in 'You know - the tall pink bloke with all the tattoos.'
But even in America, I was just at my mother's house and one of my former students who is a young black male came to visit and on the phone I told him to bring church clothes with him as we were taking my mother to church.
And he asked, 'What kind of church is it?' So I said, 'Baptist - you were raised Baptist - you'll fit right in..'
And he asked me, 'Any other colored people there?'
I assured him there were and he went and he was fine.
I didn't ask him at the time, but I was thinking, reading this, 'Is colored coming back into common use among the young people - you know like they say the n-word as a way of making it their own?
My point is that in different places with different people different terms are alright.
So, I make it a point to ask. It's no skin off my nose to try not to offend people.
In terms of the subject of the thread - no - I don't think people should be banned for saying what they think, as long as it's clear that it's only what they think.
If they try to smear or impugn another person by accusing them of criminal or immoral activity without grounds or factual information - that'd be the only time I think banning should take place.