@izzythepush,
Quote:Perhaps BillRM got a woman drunk and took advantage of her....
Perhaps? Is there any doubt in your mind that BillRM views such behavior as totally acceptable? Or that he deeply resents the fact that such sexually assaultive behavior is illegal?
Quote:He has convinced himself that what took place was voluntary, and sees himself as a victim...
BillRM prefers to deny the reality of state laws which clearly define the term "consent" in the context of sexual assaults. An impaired individual is not capable of legal consent, regardless of how that impairment came about.
In BillRM's deluded mind, if he isn't "forcing" the woman, it's not "rape". And the advantage of an intoxicated female, for someone like BillRM, is the fact that no force may be required, either because she's too impaired to resist, or because her normal inhibitions have been neurologically altered by intoxicants. No matter how you look at it, the person would not be a fully cognizant, freely willing, legally consenting individual. And, the next day, she might not even be able to recall what occurred because she was so impaired at the time.
When rape complaints follow sexual assaults of that type, BillRM will tell you that no rape took place and this is all due to "regret" about sex she was perfectly willing to engage in. He will further tell you she became impaired voluntarily, and that men aren't supposed to be the "guardians" of women. Apart from the obvious victim blame, BillRM regards the female as little more than a piece of meat that he was entitled to, and his attitude toward her becomes even more contemptuous at any suggestion that he did anything wrong or that he might be held legally accountable. He obviously has to brand her as a liar who is making a false allegation.
Totally absent from BillRM's thinking is any awareness that a violation of sexual assault law actually took place, and that he chose to take advantage of an impaired individual. He chooses to focus his anger, and contempt, on the woman, for resenting the
assault, or even labeling it as such, rather than on his own responsibility for his actions. Also implicit in this line of thought, is BillRM's belief that unwanted sex in such a situation is no big deal, and he cannot connect, at all, to the other person's sense of both physical and emotional violation.
panzade is quite right. BillRM's posts, and line of thought, provide clear insight into the mentality that enables a "rape culture" and that makes it difficult to obtain rape convictions. They obscure their own criminal activity, in violating sexual assault laws, through both victim blame and by assuming a self-righteous posture--they are the
real victims, and, by extension, all other men might be similarly victimized by these allegedly lying vindictive females. And, if she can't prove, beyond any doubt, that she was raped, we should throw
her in jail for years. That's BillRM's solution--don't stop sexually assaulting them, just keep them from complaining about it
