@Arella Mae,
You know Arella Mae, neither of the two half wits seem to realize that sexually assaulting women is just not acceptable any more.
One of the twits claims that men now have a "target on their backs" because of the current rape laws. But women have had a target on their backs, as rape targets, for how many thousands of years? Isn't it time to put a stop to that? And, to listen to this same twit, very intoxicated women not only have a very BIG TARGET on their backs, they should just ignore it when they are sexually assaulted because being drunk makes you fair game for rape. Taking advantage of a woman like that is a time honored male tradition, isn't it? A man who would pass up such an opportunity isn't a "real man", is he? It's not "real rape" if she's very drunk because she asked for it--she got herself in that condition--so, rape away.
And the other twit, the one who views gender relations from a BDSM perspective, claims "THE FEMINISTS" are trying to change human nature. As though rapes and sexual assaults are just a part of "human nature" that women should just accept and live with. Well, women got a little sick of that, and worked to help pass rape laws that didn't require a female to be beaten black and blue to prove she resisted unwanted sex. Just saying, "No" indicated what she meant. And, "No" does not mean, "Yes" or "Maybe"--"No means no". In an era of casual sex, the rape laws had to reflect reality--women were enjoying their sexuality, but that didn't mean they shouldn't be able to draw a line about what they did and did not want in a sexual encounter, and they needed that backed up by the power of law. Some men, like this particular twit, resent the fact that women have that power. And he worries mightily how they will use that power next. That seems to be a BIG problem for him.
The current rape laws reflect changes in the status of women, women just aren't doormats any more--even for their husbands. And the laws require that women be treated differently now. Consent is required for sexual activity. Most men understand that, and accept it with no problem. And laws help to change attitudes, by changing behaviors. That, this twit doesn't understand at all. Laws desegregating schools led to changed attitudes about race because they forced changes in behavior. Even laws curbing smoking in public places, restaurants, and workplaces, contributed to getting people to stop smoking and changing attitudes toward smoking. And current laws to deter sexual assaults will contribute to decreasing sexual assaults, and will help to change attitudes, such as victim blaming, which contribute to sexual assaults by helping rapists get off the hook and avoid accountability.
The most laughable thing that both twits say is that sexual assault/rape laws are anti-sex. Really?
Well, requiring "consent" is not "anti-sex"--it simply means both partners must be in agreement that the sexual encounter is desired.
The man can't just do whatever he feels like doing with a woman, whenever he feels like doing it, unless she's freely agreeing and knows what she's doing. Wow! Is that a big deal for the two twits! They don't seem to like that one bit. And they call women things like "whores" and "loose women" if these females then say they were raped. It's okay for a man to screw around, but if a woman does it, she's a tramp. Funny, that attitude seems very "anti-sex" to me. But women who feel free to flirt, and drink, and have casual sex, also have the right to say, "NO" and to have that accepted, and to expect that they won't be raped just because they are too drunk to resist. Men that can't accept that, are the ones who are "anti-sex". You encourage sexuality by making it safer--for both parties--and, being able to control what you do and do not want to occur, makes it safer and contributes to trust. Consent is not a trivial matter at all, it's part of the enjoyable aspect of sex--it means you are doing what you really want to be doing. And that's hardly "anti-sex".
The twits just don't get it, Arella Mae. And that really doesn't matter. The laws are in place. Those that violate them risk entanglements with the legal system. And nothing the twits say here is going to change that. Men are responsible for their actions--including rapes.
