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Hey, Can A Woman "Ask To Get Raped"?

 
 
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Reply Fri 10 Sep, 2010 09:26 pm
What I take from this thread is that some people are inveterate, ever blasting.

If, say, you put bill rm's posts on a continuum, you'd get quite a hum.

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firefly
 
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Reply Fri 10 Sep, 2010 10:37 pm
Some small ray of hope...A pioneering program helping to rehabilitate rapists, and Women for Women International helping women who have been raped to rebuild their lives.
Quote:

Congo rape soldiers: we abused our power
By Channel 4 News
Updated on 10 September 2010
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Channel 4 News has gained access to a pioneering project in eastern Congo where soldiers who freely raped during the country's civil war are rehabilitated. They tell filmmaker Nicola York why they used their power to abuse women.

Joseph does not take his eyes off me throughout our hour-long interview.

He talks of how he used to rape women, how he viewed them as inanimate objects with no feelings, that he used physical, psychological and sexual violence because he was trained to do this by the congolese navy.

All the time his gaze is fixed on me in a warped game of stare-off.
I do not look away but I have goose bumps throughout.

His colleague Jean, who like Joseph is also a congolese soldier in the navy based in South Kivu, says they need sex after months away from civilian life so they would take women by force in front of other soldiers, who would clap and cheer while they raped.
The woman would then be passed around for the men to "share" her.

They talk of their sex lives with their wives now.

Joseph says: "I ask her now if she wants sex. Before I would not ask, I would just beat her if she did not want to have sex with me, until she gave in."

Jean and Joseph are now mentors to other soldiers and role-models in the local community, having been through a re-education programme run by the charity Women for Women International.
They teach other men that it is wrong to rape and brutalise women and that women are equal to men and are not just objects.

Telling rapists they are inspiring is not something I had envisioned doing and it does not sit well. But I tell them it anyway.

As rapists go, they are I suppose.

It is harder to think anything inspirational about them when I meet Solange.
She is a congolese widow living in South Kivu aged 35 with four children and two nieces whom she also takes care of.

It seems callous to sum up her story in a few sentences. But this is how it goes. Solange was raped four times over a period of nine years by rebel militia groups from Rwanda (also known as Interahamwe meaning "those who attack together").
In 2006, she and her nine-year old daughter Esperanza were raped together.
Esperanza later died of her injuries.
The last rape in 2008 led to a pregnancy. She named her daughter Esperanza after the daughter who died. The name means hope.

It is difficult to feel hope after interviewing 13 rape survivors in three days.
But they are survivors, these strong proud women who look stunning in their brightly coloured headscarfs and patterned dresses.

After staring into 13 pairs of eyes filled with pain, suffering and tears over those three days, the enduring message at the end of the interview is always hope, incredible as it sounds.
They are not victims and do not want to be thought of this way.
With help from Women for Women International, they have regained their dignity and run small businesses selling fish and soaps.

They have dreams of paying for their children's schooling, having food everyday and owning a home.
They are remarkably similar to you and me.

I ask Solange what she would most like in the world.
She says: "Peace. The rapes will not stop until there is peace in Congo."
http://www.channel4.com/news/articles/world/africa/congo+rape+soldiers+we+abused+our+power/3764277

There is also a brief video you can view on the above Web site.

Women for Women International sounds like a wonderful organization. This is their Web site.
http://www.womenforwomen.org/index.php

I am thinking of sponsoring a woman through Women for Women. I would like to feel I am actually doing something to help someone rather than just reading about these things and talking about them.

Are any of you familiar with Women for Women International? Are there other similar organizations that help women in war torn countries?
OCCOM BILL
 
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Reply Sat 11 Sep, 2010 02:03 am
@OmSigDAVID,
OmSigDAVID wrote:

Do u propose that Internet anonymity be ended ?
Of course not, David. I merely pointed out that anonymous inciting is the act of a coward. There are plenty of legitimate reasons for posting anonymously, but there are reproachable reasons to do so as well. Do you disagree?
OmSigDAVID
 
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Reply Sat 11 Sep, 2010 03:41 am
@OCCOM BILL,
OmSigDAVID wrote:
Do u propose that Internet anonymity be ended ?
OCCOM BILL wrote:
Of course not, David. I merely pointed out that anonymous inciting is the act of a coward. There are plenty of legitimate reasons for posting anonymously, but there are reproachable reasons to do so as well. Do you disagree?
In my vu, anyone and everyone is, and shoud be, free
to say whatever he wants (all opinions and refutations) either anonymously or not, at his option.

I support the status quo.





David
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Intrepid
 
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Reply Sat 11 Sep, 2010 03:53 am
@hawkeye10,
hawkeye10 wrote:

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I'm with you Osso and Brooke. I thumbed them down!
Great, the larger the neg vote count the easier it is for Bill and I to make the case to people with an open mind that the rest of the people in this thread are not open to the truth.


Don't flatter yourself. People are open to the truth. They are just not open to bullshit.
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Intrepid
 
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Reply Sat 11 Sep, 2010 03:57 am
@BillRM,
BillRM wrote:


Shock and horror as in hearing that word people will shut off their brains.



Is that what happened to you?
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firefly
 
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Reply Sat 11 Sep, 2010 04:57 am
Quote:
Boy pleads with rapist as he sees brutal attack on mother
Sep 11 2010
Amy Devine

A FIVE-YEAR-OLD boy pleaded with a rapist to "leave my mummy alone" as he watched her being brutally attacked.

Carpet fitter Neil McIntosh, 31, was jailed for 10 and a half years yesterday for repeatedly abusing two women.

The brute had attacked the mum for six years and once tried to drown her. Her child was left sobbing over her motionless body after McIntosh beat her unconscious.

Temporary judge Norman Ritchie QC told McIntosh: "This was a sustained course of savagery. You displayed unbridled viciousness and you raped these women repeatedly.

"The effects for your victims will be long-standing, perhaps even permanent."

Leanne Cross, prosecuting, told the High Court in Glasgow that McIntosh started attacking his first victim, from Inverness-shire, in January 1999.

Miss Cross said: "He held her down on the bed and forcibly raped her. This happened repeatedly before she realised that it was 'easier to give in'.

"He often beat her in front of her son who would try to pull him away shouting 'Leave mummy alone'."

The court heard that McIntosh threw the woman against a wall and knocked her unconscious. When she woke up, her son was lying over her, crying.

McIntosh also held her head under water for long periods of time as she ran her son's bath.

He forced her to wear make-up when he was around because he didn't want to see her "ugly face".

The woman eventually managed to break free from the abuse and McIntosh moved on to his second victim, who he regularly visited at her Glasgow home in 2008.

He again repeatedly beat and raped the 36-year-old and forced her to take a pregnancy test before attacking her when it was negative.

Miss Cross added: "During these assaults he would say 'I'm going to f***ing kill you'.

She was also raped repeatedly by the accused who would grab her by the hair or throat and throw her down."

He was eventually arrested when a friend of the woman called the police.

She was treated in hospital for a perforated ear drum and a broken hand.

McIntosh, a prisoner at Barlinnie Prison, admitted repeatedly assaulting and raping the women.

After the sentence, police said they hoped it would encourage abuse victims to come forward.

Detective Superintendent Peter McPike, head of Strathclyde Police domestic abuse task force, said: "McIntosh's crimes were so severe we cannot begin to imagine the horror of what his victims endured."
http://www.dailyrecord.co.uk/news/scottish-news/2010/09/11/boy-pleads-with-rapist-as-he-sees-brutal-attack-on-mother-86908-22553212/
OmSigDAVID
 
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Reply Sat 11 Sep, 2010 06:09 am
@firefly,
firefly wrote:

Quote:
Boy pleads with rapist as he sees brutal attack on mother
Sep 11 2010
Amy Devine

A FIVE-YEAR-OLD boy pleaded with a rapist to "leave my mummy alone" as he watched her being brutally attacked.

Carpet fitter Neil McIntosh, 31, was jailed for 10 and a half years yesterday for repeatedly abusing two women.

The brute had attacked the mum for six years and once tried to drown her. Her child was left sobbing over her motionless body after McIntosh beat her unconscious.

Temporary judge Norman Ritchie QC told McIntosh: "This was a sustained course of savagery. You displayed unbridled viciousness and you raped these women repeatedly.

"The effects for your victims will be long-standing, perhaps even permanent."

Leanne Cross, prosecuting, told the High Court in Glasgow that McIntosh started attacking his first victim, from Inverness-shire, in January 1999.

Miss Cross said: "He held her down on the bed and forcibly raped her. This happened repeatedly before she realised that it was 'easier to give in'.

"He often beat her in front of her son who would try to pull him away shouting 'Leave mummy alone'."

The court heard that McIntosh threw the woman against a wall and knocked her unconscious. When she woke up, her son was lying over her, crying.

McIntosh also held her head under water for long periods of time as she ran her son's bath.

He forced her to wear make-up when he was around because he didn't want to see her "ugly face".

The woman eventually managed to break free from the abuse and McIntosh moved on to his second victim, who he regularly visited at her Glasgow home in 2008.

He again repeatedly beat and raped the 36-year-old and forced her to take a pregnancy test before attacking her when it was negative.

Miss Cross added: "During these assaults he would say 'I'm going to f***ing kill you'.

She was also raped repeatedly by the accused who would grab her by the hair or throat and throw her down."

He was eventually arrested when a friend of the woman called the police.

She was treated in hospital for a perforated ear drum and a broken hand.

McIntosh, a prisoner at Barlinnie Prison, admitted repeatedly assaulting and raping the women.

After the sentence, police said they hoped it would encourage abuse victims to come forward.

Detective Superintendent Peter McPike, head of Strathclyde Police domestic abuse task force, said: "McIntosh's crimes were so severe we cannot begin to imagine the horror of what his victims endured."
http://www.dailyrecord.co.uk/news/scottish-news/2010/09/11/boy-pleads-with-rapist-as-he-sees-brutal-attack-on-mother-86908-22553212/

At the age of 5, he is too weak to do it, but when he is older and stronger in ten years,
the boy is morally duty-bound, honor-bound, to kill the offender, regardless of the consequences.

If he fails to do so, he will disgrace himself.





David
Intrepid
 
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Reply Sat 11 Sep, 2010 06:28 am
@OmSigDAVID,
OmSigDAVID wrote:

At the age of 5, he is too weak to do it, but when he is older and stronger in ten years,
the boy is morally duty-bound, honor-bound, to kill the offender, regardless of the consequences.

If he fails to do so, he will disgrace himself.





David


Sounds like the actions of the militant, radical Moslems that you so abhor.
OmSigDAVID
 
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Reply Sat 11 Sep, 2010 06:31 am
@Intrepid,
OmSigDAVID wrote:

At the age of 5, he is too weak to do it, but when he is older and stronger in ten years,
the boy is morally duty-bound, honor-bound, to kill the offender, regardless of the consequences.

If he fails to do so, he will disgrace himself.





David
Intrepid wrote:
Sounds like the actions of the militant, radical Moslems that you so abhor.
Sometimes, not all the time.
I have not said that the Moslems never did anything right.


As to the abhorence:
I resent what the Moslems did 9 years ago.
Other than that, I don 't give a rat 's ass; I 'm indifferent to the Moslems,
as long as thay don 't cause trouble.

I feel the same way about Pat Robertson.





David
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Arella Mae
 
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Reply Sat 11 Sep, 2010 09:07 am
@firefly,
I hadn't heard of them but I am going to check them out. There are so many women out there needing support concerning this issue. We must reach out to them.

Though I'd find it rather hard myself to encourage someone (that used to be a rapist) I would hope that I could encourage them in their rehabilitation efforts. If we are going to complain about a behavior and then someone TRULY is changing that behavior I think that is something we need to encourage and support.
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glitterbag
 
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Reply Sat 11 Sep, 2010 03:50 pm
I think it is fairly safe to say that the 2 provocateurs posting all the false info on how many good decent men are in the slammer because of "rape feminists", whatever the hell that means...are really powerless unless you give them power. I'd be willing to bet than none of the women posting here are related or married to either of these fools.

Also it reminded me of an article written by a women in response to the "Female Orgasim" which was written by a male OB/GYN. Her column was headlined "What It Feels Like To Be Kicked In The Testicals By a Horse", her point being that she didn't think that a man could resonably be certain what a female orgasim felt like. It was funny back then, so I plan to start a thread entitled "How iit feels to be kicked in the testicles by a horse" and I will invite all the women here to provide examples from their own experience. This is intended mostly for women who truely respect men, we don't want any name calling or some such. So as soon as my husband tells me it's OK, I'll start the thread. (just kidding, thought I'd make bill and hawk feel comfortable.

 

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