How do I accept my girlfriend's short skirt outfits?

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I have insecurities and I have talked to my girl about this. I just am concerned about people trying to take over what I have worked so hard for. This is my first real relationship where I have to worry about guys tryin to steal my girl from me. She says she loves me and I have nothing to worry about and her friends that do way worst than her don't even dress that badly. I just need to know what I can do or if there's anything to do...

Also, how do you overcome your insecurities about this issue. I need advice because I'm not a person to deal with "almost" revealing clothing. I'm just faithful person trying to accept my girlfriend's outfits...

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@Zboss,

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I just am concerned about people trying to take over what I have worked so hard for.

I don't think you are very clear on the girlfriend thing.

Girlfriends are not prizes you have "worked so hard for", and they are not things you own. As you do not own your girlfriend, no one can steal her from her (people can only steal things that belong to you). If she goes with another guy, then sorry, that's life. There are no guarantees in life. After all, who she is with is her decision.

If you have anything, what you have is a "relationship". If you are working for anything, then you are working for a relationship (not for a girl).

The good news is that if you have a good relationship, then your girlfriend will almost certainly stay with you. People like to have good relationships and no one leaves a good relationship for another person. You will notice that when your girlfriend said to you "you have nothing to worry about", she was answering your concern by telling you she thinks you have a good relationship.

My best advice is: don't screw up a good relationship.

But you are going to have to deal with the facts... you never own another person. You should stop talking as if you do. If you have a good relationship, then keep it. Keep working on it, and keep enjoying it.

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@ebrown p,

I understand. I know I don't own her--- I hate the idea of owning somebody. I see what you mean as for working for a relationship. I want to work for a good relationship. But yeah, I'll have to deal with that situation mentally... And I really do enjoy my relationship....

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@Zboss,

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I have insecurities

yes you do.

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I have to say, that if I was in a relationship with a guy who calls himself "Zee Boss" and who thinks I shouldn't wear short skirts in case other men see my legs and might want to "steal" me, then that relationship would very soon be over! Like NOW.

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@dyslexia,

dyslexia wrote:

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I have insecurities
yes you do.

Hello dyslexia considering ebrown p's answer, which I thought was sufficient, your additional comment was not needed. So many people are insecure and I think this young man admirable to admit that he realizes his.

William

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@William,

In dyslexia's defence, although he does not need it, the fact that you thought ebrown's advice was sufficient is of no consequence in that this is only your opinion. Rather than make any suggestion of your own, you only come in to chastise dyslexia.

For the record. I also agree with ebrown's answer. That however, does not and should not limit any other poster from making their opinions known to the original poster.

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@Intrepid,

Intrepid wrote:

In dyslexia's defence, although he does not need it, the fact that you thought ebrown's advice was sufficient is of no consequence in that this is only your opinion. Rather than make any suggestion of your own, you only come in to chastise dyslexia.

For the record. I also agree with ebrown's answer. That however, does not and should not limit any other poster from making their opinions known to the original poster.

I understand that and agree. Some who do recognize needless comments need to identify those comments when the occur. The originator of he topic had already admitted to his shortcomings and didn't need to be reminded.

Of course you may disagree with me, if you wish. I understand that too.

William

PS.Normally I would have contacted dyslexia privately but that feature of this forum is disabled now.

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@William,

William wrote:

dyslexia wrote:

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I have insecurities
yes you do.

Hello dyslexia considering ebrown p's answer, which I thought was sufficient, your additional comment was not needed. So many people are insecure and I think this young man admirable to admit that he realizes his.

William

On the contrary, William: The Dys, if anything, was being overly concise. The only thing Zboss need address is his own insecurity. If he tries to make her feel responsible for his insecurities or lets them override his rationality; then his fears of losing her will likely be a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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@Zboss,

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How do I accept my girlfriend's short skirt outfits?

Do you like every pair of shoes she wears? Do you always like the color of lipstick she chooses to wear? What about her blouses?

How do you deal with those instances?

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@Zboss,

Do you like the way she looks in short skirts? If so, then enjoy it.

If you don't like the way she looks in short skirts, then very delicately suggest an alternate outfit.

Do not, under any circumstances, say anything like "you look too sexy in short skirts."

Drew(You know, I always love the way you look in flowing skirts.)dad

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First of all we cannot give educated advice without proper information. A few pics of you GF in a skirt would suffice.

lol
anyway, this is your issue not hers. If you cannot handle it she isn't the right girl for you. Talk sincerely and non-judgmentally with her. compromise if possible, if neither of you are will to do that. You aren;t a good match and will be fighting about much more important things in the future.

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@DrewDad,

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Do you like the way she looks in short skirts? If so, then enjoy it

exactly, and also realize that unless she is extremely loyal or is ugly if you are together long enough she is almost certainly going to have sex with some other guy at some point. Maybe that will be the end for you if you find out, but that would be your choice, it does not need to be that way. If a woman likes being with her man not only will she stay after she fucks around, but her getting out often makes the relationship better.

If you knew which side your bread is buttered on you would enjoy the skimpy outfits, and at least be able to tolerate some other guy getting to her. Her being happy is in your best interest, her thinking that you love her for who she is is in your best interest.

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@hawkeye10,

You cannot judge everyone else by your experiences.

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well . . . HOW SHORT is the skirt?

Are they out of the norm for the group you run with?

Does she stand out because of these short skirts?

Does she dress like this all the time?

You MAY be more sensitive than usual, or you MAY be reacting to her provocativeness.

Ask someone to help you do a reality check on the situation.

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@PUNKEY,

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well . . . HOW SHORT is the skirt?

and does she go commando? If she does that would tell you that she is shopping.

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@OCCOM BILL,

OCCOM BILL wrote:

William wrote:

dyslexia wrote:

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I have insecurities
yes you do.

Hello dyslexia considering ebrown p's answer, which I thought was sufficient, your additional comment was not needed. So many people are insecure and I think this young man admirable to admit that he realizes his.

William

On the contrary, William: The Dys, if anything, was being overly concise. The only thing Zboss need address is his own insecurity. If he tries to make her feel responsible for his insecurities or lets them override his rationality; then his fears of losing her will likely be a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Overly concise? No he wasn't! He was reiterating to be rude: a statement that had been previously confessed as if he, himself, has no insecurities. Let us hope it was an unconscious thought and he didn't mean to say it. Short concise, terse statements when one is sincerely asking for help is RUDE. You may call it what you wish, I am quite comfortable with my assessment. Now lets not continue here and see if any one can help his man understand better as to why.

William

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@William,

William wrote:

Overly concise? No he wasn't! He was reiterating to be rude: a statement that had been previously confessed as if he, himself, has no insecurities.

William

You know this how?

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@hawkeye10,

hawkeye10 wrote:

exactly, and also realize that unless she is extremely loyal or is ugly if you are together long enough she is almost certainly going to have sex with some other guy at some point. Maybe that will be the end for you if you find out, but that would be your choice, it does not need to be that way. If a woman likes being with her man not only will she stay after she fucks around, but her getting out often makes the relationship better.

If you knew which side your bread is buttered on you would enjoy the skimpy outfits, and at least be able to tolerate some other guy getting to her. Her being happy is in your best interest, her thinking that you love her for who she is is in your best interest.

**** you're weird. And so wrong. You think you know women? This is your problem! You don't. You have basically just said every woman is going to screw around on every guy she's with. Who are you that you meet these loser women all the time?

I have been in several relationships, some long-term (20 yrs), some short (1 - 5 yrs) and I have never screwed around on anyone yet. Also, I know many women who have stated that they've never done so.

You are not a counsellor and you are not normal, so please don't keep dispensing your twisted thinking/advice to young, impressionable people. You are NOT qualified!

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@GoshisDead,

GoshisDead wrote:

First of all we cannot give educated advice without proper information. A few pics of you GF in a skirt would suffice.

LOL I was thinking the same thing Smile

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