Wed 30 Jun, 2010 06:42 am
I have been dating a widow for nearly a year, and I love him with all my heart, he lost his wife in 2007 and I lost my husband in 2008, we found each other in 2009 and became friends. We got to know each other and we clicked. I some how knew, we were getting serous with each other and I packed up all my husbands clothes, and things to get rid of, and it was for closure for my self, yet as we are still together he has not gotten rid of any of hers, he closed the bedroom door with all your stuff in there and really never goes up there, Am I missing something? Is this just laziness or holding on? I am very confused with this all, please give me some insight, thanks
I don't know if this is a "man's thing" just about cleaning or he is holding on to the past. Most widowers I know had a daughter, sister or other female friend help with the cleanout. Is there anyone *** besides you *** that could help out?
It takes energy to enter those drawers, garage, closets, cupboards and even start. I understand; I did it over a year's time a little at a time. It's easy to just keep the door closed. It takes courage to grieve.