Did I burn any bridges in quitting my job?

I think this may be the most important statement you've ever made here on A2K, DDD.

I sincerely hope the denial is indeed in the past, as you say, and that you are actively getting help to cope with it so you'll be able to live an independent and happy life. I feel you are quite capable of doing so with the proper guidance. You really do have good intentions in most cases. It is the way you act on those intentions that seems to get you in trouble.

..hence the problem. it is not about being afflicted. Hell, we all have some sort of affliction or dysfunctionality. It's about taking responsibility and then following through.

It isn't just one thread, DD. All of your threads combined show a pattern of your difficulties and our advice, given over and over. Perhaps you don't see the patterns.

I still hope you get advice from experts on asperger's, and I still hope you look into some instructional classes that help you get work that would be a better fit for you.

Question: Firefly said there are alot worse things than being ignored by my boss. What are some of them? If anything is THAT bad, how did people deal with them and stick it out at their job?

i lived to be ignored by my boss, i had a job to do, not be a friend to my boss or co-workers

Worse than being ignored is being focused on and targeted. I never had a problem when a superior ignored me. I liked it. As long as I got my paycheck I was happy to be off their radar. I think your boss made a big mistake in befriending you and you're too socially naive to see the problem in that. Someone has gotta be the sheepdog and everyone else has to be the sheep. A good sheepdog leads the sheep, but never becomes one of the flock.

really, leave me alone and let me do my work.

the results are much better that way.

She not only befriended me. She befriended everyone she works with, although she still exercizes authority when she needs to. I saw her give write ups and can people over certain **** big and small. I only have a problem not only cuz I lost a friend, but bc she still talks and jokes around w/ everyone else. However, I now realized that losing a friend at work is the same as losing it everywhere and it's a ridiculous to quit over that. At least I didn't have an office romance and break up! THAT would be a legitimate reason top quit, alth0ugh most of us would still stick it out.

It's quite painful when a moderate friend/supervisor at work doesn't help you in the time of need.

I can't imagine when one's manager (who allegedly acts like a friend) stabs you in the back in the name of keeping discipline amongst the ranks.

It's better if they stay professional and away from friend territory.

Still, dd, you are going over and over and over this behavior on your not completely smart boss' part. Bosses are not pals. (ok, ok, occasionally, but bosses and employees are distinctively different.) You are emphasizing your hurt. She, on the other hand, is reasonably wary of you.

Please listen to some of us and take a class or two to help yourself. Also, talk with your therapist. Are you pitting us and our advice against your therapist's advice?

I actually very much prefer advice from a2k to my therapist's. Y'all and her said the same thing, but I'd very much prefer that she'd be tougher on me. She emphasized too much of my hurt, but that's not the real world. I'm not currently taking any classes right now, but I'm reading Idiot's Guide to Enhancing Social Intelligence. Also, Shut Up, Stop, Whining, and Get a Life by Larry Winget.

And remember when I said I had an anger problem? Well, that's just the surface, not the root. The root of my lifelong problem had been my spoiled outlook. Anger was just the symptom bc I wanted what I want when I want it. I'm working on changing my mindset now that I realize what my real problem is. (and no, no one has spoiled me.)

After a frustrating attempt at finding a job (33 places, 3 interview, no offer), I went back to McD's and I asked for my job back. I was like, "I realize I made a big mistake in quitting and I don't expect a yes or anything, but do you have any openings?" She was like, "We're not hiring right now but we might in a month or so. I'll keep you in mind." What does that mean?

It might literally mean they don't need anyone at the moment, but will consider you in the future or it might mean "don't call us, we'll call you" - which means you will never hear from them.

Thanks. I'm getting really desperate as 33 places already turned me down (and that's after 3 interviews.) When VR mentioned the possibility of going back, this seemed to be the only way. VR said they'll help me speak and they have a good relationship w/ that particular McD's.

Well, that sounds good to me - but I'd still like to hear that you are sharpening some additional job skills in the meantime via a class or two.
One thing I've noticed, is that your writing is not bad at all - you could possible work in some capacity using that as a tool.

Looks like I haven't burned my bridges completely. When prospective employers contacted McD's, she gave out that I worked there, the dates, and the fact that I'm rehirable bc I gave notice. It resulted in interviews, but for some reasons, they don't offer me the job. Another piece of good news, she don't completely ignore me anymore. I guess that's cuz long time passed and we've gotten over each other

But she did not tell them you were a good employee. Most companies will provide the basic info like you stated, they will not provide negative feedback because they do not want a law suit. Lack of providing job performance feedback can also be a clue to a prospective employer.

Before, when VR was referring another person to McD's, he remarked that I kicked ass. She said I was the hardest working person she has around. Of course, that was B4 I embarrassed her publicly

Its good to hear that.
That's very, very important for u.
We know from the information that u used to post,
that u went out of your way to say things
to get people mad at u.




The way to find out whether u burned that bridge or not
is to ASK HER to take u back. She will either reject u or accept u.
From that response, u will know the answer to your question.





David

Thx. Life has strange twists and turns. She has since retired and I had moved on. I'm now past my one year anniversary working at Sam's Club. Still on good terms with everyone and getting along well. And my old supervisor don't have anything against me ne more. I know cuz I saw her again last year. I'm still a bitch, but now in the way I used to be lol.

btw, I forgot my password for the past year. But I created a new one and now am glad to be back.