@plainoldme,
plainoldme wrote:
My, aren't you testy. I say adult wrongly here. Well, that comment ended my neutral opinion of you. I say adult wrongly here.
Firstly I must admit I can come across testy when I am in a rush and it has been all rush rush rush for the past few days.
You are correct I could and should have been far more pleasant to you even if still disagreeing with you, for one I did not thank you for your reply, so thank you for that one and this one.
You are most welcome to pull me up on anything.
There is no excuse for bad manners.
But my thank you was implied by the length of my reply,
In future the longer my reply to anyone is a bigger thank you and compliment from me. You may not like what I write, sometimes neither do I but longer my reply the more grateful I am to you.
plainoldme wrote:
You really ought to explain that.
I have had a hard time finding what it is you want an explanation for.
If it is that I said you used adult here wrongly.
My reply is that you described an adult as someone who has no opinion.
The option of adulthood is to prove yourself to your self, Humanity, the world and God. And doing this is rarely achieved by rolling over every time something important is not up to snuff.
plainoldme wrote:
The purpose of this forum is, first and foremost, to exchange ideas.
I like this a lot.
But you cannot exchange an idea with out it being open to inspection.
I keep my faith as wide eyed as possible.
Nothing blind about me but for what I choose not to see.
I chose to see you and could not find total agreement with you.
I am sad I may have hurt you, but I will not be able to not question everything I ever find interesting enough to inspect.
Put nicely I found you interesting.
plainoldme wrote:
You may not have been here long enough to realize that many people are only here to bait others. There are several that are downright nasty.
I am just waiting for that, but just because you know someone as nasty does not mean you should repay in kind.
Try to reach, or turn of the cheek.
plainoldme wrote:
I did not "describe" what you think I "described." Either you are projecting or not reading well.
Possibly projecting possibly not reading well or possibly coming to my own conclusion about things that does not seat well with you so you must think it is my ignorance rather than your reluctance to ask me for an explanation.
Or possibly I still dont know what you are talking about.
A lot of reading and forum work is guess work.
I have a stunted sense of humour which means I am more likely to take pain from a joke than a laugh unless it is clearly indicated with a smile, but I can dismiss this pain as said there is a lot of guess work that goes on when reading in general, it is a naked language, you must take an awful lot on faith.
plainoldme wrote:
When one encounters some of the nasties, sometimes the best thing to do is vote them down. As I said, the practice provides a convenient marker.
Another example of why I don't like them, I am an acquired taste but not got a bad intention in my being, so with so many people not wanting to taste me means I also could be by this 'marker' be judged as nasty.
You are not doing a very good job justifying this feature but I do like a easy fight (sun smile)
Does this mean that when you are 'marked' so many times you get kicked out?
Again it just seems to me a troll is looking for you to sully yourself by pressing such a button, they win even if they know they wont be here long they have made you do a negative act.
plainoldme wrote:
You really failed to make clear what sort of voting down you meant . . . for the thread itself or for individual posts.
Quite frankly the whole idea is worrisome to me, seems like an eye for an eye.
I can just about get on board with the thumb down post that has no connection to the topic and is self contained.
I have already in this topic noticed people keep going with the thumbs down pushing people into negative numbers, how much of an indication do you need to make that you did not like something to strip it of basic foundations.
That screams nastiness to me.
Highly upsetting, you are so bad you are worse than zero.
This really has steeled me to the forum, so please I do have a warm heart but here I feel as if I must be on watch and wear armour.
I hope you can see this genuinely upsets me as well as confuses me.
I did not open this topic for kicks I opened it for a rationalisation which to my measure still has not been adequately provided.
But I am at least getting closer to a resolution on the matter which means there will be less room to be hurt in the future.
I do not like nostalgia all to much but back where I came from you could put your name in a thank you to someone and they would know it from you and that you would receive them and they could NOT be taken from you with out a by your leave.
It was a pleasant environment that rewarded good work singularly and had no interest in 'punishing' the wicked, one reason we so rarely ever had to ban any one back there was because there was no way the nasties knew they were getting to you.
We asked them to explain them selves and tried to show them their error.
We had success in transforming a couple of wannabe trolls into productive active members.
Believe me this thumb down business does NOT deter bad behaviour, it elicits it.
plainoldme wrote:
But, there really are times when the best thing to do is vote down. Right now, and, until you give contrary evidence, I think that only a childish person would dare to accuse someone else of "pulling girls hair and then running away."
I still and it may be principal cannot agree with this.
I was not saying you did this gentle person, I was saying this is the impression and feeling you get, you are left confused wondering if you have deserved the hair pull or if it was just someoenes boredom and the law of the playground .and you cannot deny some petty vindictive people would do such a thing.
I have been giving you the contrary evidence but will use my old forum as the best example we had no punishment system such as this and we ran with almost no trolls.
Please I keep hearing 'the best thing' no one has told me what it achieves positively for any one other than as a marker for the 'bad' people.
People complain to the authorities if they are being harassed or abused, they should not be looking to own arms in their own home. Innocent People are being shot in the crossfire.
It seems for the relatively few horrible people you are saying this goes some way into sorting out there is a whole forum under marshal law.
As said if you have a gun you are more likely to shoot it.
Do you prefer your members to be armed when there ought be a strong police force any way.
It to my sensibilities is weak willed of those who use it.
And no one here has yet made a decent argument for the use of such WEAPONS
plainoldme wrote:
I started a thread on the notion of the right fighter because I feel that there are times when one's view must be defended and now is a time of great division and great danger within this country.
You are justifying hand held weapons, you sound as if you may listen to far to much propaganda.
What country do you belong and they belong to you?
The best defence is the argument is the rationalisation of things.
Not knee jerk politics and justifications.
'if they can do it to me, I can do it to them' but what ends up happening 'if they can do it to me, I can do it to anyone'
plainoldme wrote:
If adult behavior is so outside your realm of experience that you think it childish when advised to you . . . in a light tone . . . well . . .'nuff said.
What exactly did you advise me to do?
I must have missed it.
'outside my realm of experience'
no no just outside my realm as this makes no sense, please if you will give me the credit of your company in the future, show and quote me so I will know what you are taking about so I can adequately defend and prove myself.
Thanks for reading and making yourself available to me.
sometime sun