Just what I was going to say...
We can´t blame everything on parents.
Children need boundries, but it depends on how it is done.
Too much can make a child feel closed in and not having a chance to develope their personality. Then they might rebellion and be nasty as grown ups
A girl who is not allowed to play football because she is a girl.
A child who is not allowed to play an instrument because there were noone in the family ever playing an instrument.
A child painting a green sun will be corrected as a sun is yellow.
Don´t do this - don´t do that what will the neighbours think.
Parents love can also be a burden.
We always wanted the best for you. We have always done everything for you
We have sacrified so much for you.....
Make me think about the mother who told about her two married children:
Her daughter married such a nice guy. He has a good job, he is a marvellous cook, he his fantastic with the garden, he loves to give her presents and flowers.
Her son married a real lazy bitch. He has to work. He has developed into a great cook because she is a hopeless woman who can´t cook. She never does a thing in the garden he has to do everything himself. And she demands he brings her flowers and gifts.