I find your reply that my post as being confrontational ... as interesting. I oberved someone in harm's way and took a direct route with my choice of words. I was direct, you perceived that as confrontational. Personally, I didn't see it that way. Opinions and objectivity will vary, especially when someone is under this highly stressful scenario. The fact is that what I offer for constructive advice has been echoed by others. Somehow, your reaction to what I wrote ruffled your feathers.
The fact that you're choosing to stay in that living situation, putting yourself (or her) in harm's way, is a choice that I (and others) might not make. Many here are advising you to make a different choice, hoping you both will come away from the feeling of security of living with someone for so long.
I thought what I wrote was constructive. Most people prefer others to agree with them and this situation is not much different. Even though most, when asking for advice, shun it, it doesn''t stop people. Perhaps after awhile, some good will come of all this.
I've noticed from the trend of your prior posts, you like to debate and analyze 'hot-button' issues. Perhaps this is more analysis and debate; however, you seem to either keep changing the story or elaborating further and it's been hard to track. Nevertheless, I wish you well and hope no danger comes to either of you.