And, being a man who hates loud bars, where is it you'd be likely to go?
I dont like loud bars either. I go to ... where do I go to? I'm kinda fussy when it comes to cafes (kinda
... <LOL at imagining either of my last two gf's eye-rolling reaction to that statement>) ...
I like coffeehouses and so on, where they have, you know, a good selection of newspapers and a decent choice of teas and, preferably, good cake ... <grins>. If you've got all those three bases covered, the place is pretty likely not to be a "loud bar". And to look either cozy or smart or hip, which is all OK. Yeah, that pretty much covers it.
Then again thats usually early in the evening or in the afternoon, it gets pretty tough late at night or in the weekend ... Alternatively, I have a guilty pleasure in, like, the superhip loungy places that can get pretty crowded without ever appearing to become a "loud bar". Those be good for later hours, though not so much alone. (Except if you're abroad, then you have a good excuse - hell, then you're interesting
by yourself ;-). And thats mostly where I'd have to go for 'em, anyway ... Berlin ...)
Then again you're right, the silent type doesn't really
work so good for men either, unless you're either insanely handsome or successful and intrigueing or get to be around the same group of people for a while ... so I dunno how much good finding the right cafe actually does if you're just going to be quietly reading.
When you're in your mid-twenties (say, crossing the continent with an Interrail pass or something), being writing in a cafe can work - thats interesting
, too. It's also pretty cheesy, works better for girls (providing shy guys with the perfect opening line) - and, on that latter note, if you're actually trying to write something the "what are you writing?" interruptions can get pretty damn annoying (says A.)
Oh - cinemas. Art house-type cinemas usually come with a cafe thats most never a "loud bar" and usually pretty likely to stock other people by themselves ... plus, you always have a topic for conversation at the ready.
<all said by a guy who doesnt actually do any picking up, mind you ... most all the girls I was with were people I was around for a while ...>