Scouting out guys at the grocery store.

I thought that was your dream date?

LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!

Well usually, but this one had sharp teeth.

No joke... I was at a restaurant recently and there were a trio of obviously gay guys. One of 'em was just kind of guarded in a weird way, I was trying to figure it out. He grinned for a split second, involuntarily, and I saw that his 4 front teeth were like half there -- either an accident or filed down. Not gone, but only like 1/4 inch there. (Never saw bottom teeth or lack thereof.) Canines were all there, I think. (It was just a split-second glance.) They were all pierced and tattooed and such, wouldn't be too surprised if it was purposeful.

Hey, you do what you gotta do.

Some people file their teeth, I've removed my lower ribs, different strokes for different folks.

Maybe I could break my shin bones so I can have longer legs....?

When I read Soz's quote at the top of the page, I thought Slappy had been talking about me!

But seriously, Slappy said something to the effect of, "How's a guy going to know if he wants to date you if you never open your mouth?" Now, assuming that he wasn't talking about whether my teeth were filed or not, he's right. I don't really provide much to go on while in social settings. I'm sort of the strong silent type. That might work for guys, but not so good for women. Why's that?

How do I say this without making a joke?

Men are accustomed to hearing a LOT of talk from women. Most women are willing to talk your ears off if they are interested in you, so men take silence to mean BUGGER OFF you boring TWIT.

Men like to be interviewed, most men, I don't, I like to to ask the questions and listen, but if you can break out of the silent statue routine for a moment or two upon meeting someone --- ask about anything he's already talking about--- the simple and very useful questions "What do you mean by that? can start a conversation that can last for hours.

OR if 1) he can't answer that question coherently or 2) he doesn't ask you something about yourself in the first five minutes, get away fast.


Joe (So I hear you went to Italy last fall, what was the most ,,, )Nation

Good technique except I usually can't hear what anyone's saying. Do I need to buy a hearing aid in order to date?

I know, I know, I have an excuse for everything.

i hate loud bars.


go to places where the men who hate loud bars go.


jn

And, being a man who hates loud bars, where is it you'd be likely to go?

I have zero success at any of these places. I wonder if being an ugly bastard has anything to do with it.

Hmm

Wow, you're the poster boy for self-esteem, huh? Get your ass to the gym, and go buy some nice clothes. Combine this with some personality, and someone's bound to bang you.

Wait, littlek, so you're saying the silent type works? Dammit...should I go back to the drawing board? Riiiiight...

You are making excuses. Your hearing insn't THAT bad.

Well, maybe the silent type doesn't work so good for men either. And, no, of course you shouldn't change who you are. That's sort of the point. I've always been like this. Maybe in the past it didn't matter because I was cuter then, so, guys hit on me anyway....?

And maybe being a bartender constantly surrounded by drunk guys had something to do with it, too?

What the hell, did this thread turn into a depression clinic?

I want both of you to look into the mirror, and say "I'm good enough, smart enough, and gosh darn it, people like me. And if I were a (pick guy or girl), I'd bang the hell out of me."

This works. I hear.

hasn't it always been sort of a depressing thread?

No!

This is about picking up people Good stuff.

ok ok.

That sounds almost tragic. I shared a method that is near fool-proof (with repetition) a while back, I'll find it for you... Click Here! (lucky day, a couple methods! :wink:).

Now if you can't score in ten or twenty tries or so, you really are an ugly bastard (kidding)... I mean let us know and we'll cook something special up for you! Most people, who don't score, simply don't try. Starting today, say hello to every person you encounter until you get sick of so many people being so friendly. It won't change who you are... it'll just remind you how easy it is to meet people. Think of hello as a volume knob for stranger-attention. It is.

Saying hello in grocery stores works.
Saying hello on the escalator works.
Saying hello walking down the street works.
Making eye contact really works.