@eurocelticyankee,
The ship had been slowly sailing away before the boyfriend, but he made a lot of sense, a captivating thing in a friend or boyfriend. Knowing him was like freeing shackles.
Something you might understand - when I introduced him to my mother, who was Boston Irish, and said his name, last name Cohen, she picked up on him as irish (which Cohan can be) and smiling.. and then his explaining no.
I remember mentally cringing that she said that..
I should explain: my father and mother were early workers in Hollywood, and during a lot of their years, the people involved were often either jewish or irish, and from my childhood and teen observations, got along, from what I saw. I don't take her, in memory, as biased, but she especially liked the irish.
Heh, I never mentioned his atheism, nor my then almost-agreement.