February the 12th would mark Lilia's 11th Birthday.
It would mark a date that my parents were happy, the entire family celebrated her birth. We didn't expect that she wouldn't be here to celebrate her 11th brithday and had no idea that she will never celebrate her 18th or 21st. She'd never be a teenager or go to high school.
But anyway, i was wondering what everyone thought. When people die do they still get older to you.
Say someone died when they were aged 70, 20 years ago, would they now be 90, or would they always be 70?
Do you celebrate the Birthday without them, get presents, or just let the date pass without mentioning it?
What does everyone else do/think?
I am guided in this by what the decedents THEMSELVES
have said about it, to wit:
when young children or babies have died, (those who remember)
after being revived have said that when thay were out
of their human bodies, thay were fully adult
and remained so until their material bodies were revived.
The person herself shoud not be confused with the vehicle she used.
She was alive b4 your parents met and she remains alive now.
Only her body is out-of-action.
People who have died in hospitals have indicated
that thay were not sentimental about their material bodies.
As it was expressed by Deepak Chopra, M.D.:
people believe that thay are human beings
with occasional spiritual experiences,
but thay are actually spiritual beings
with occasional human experiences.
As a person who has had a few (not enuf) out-of-body experiences,
I agree with that observation.
Take a consensus of your family members
as to whether thay wish to celebrate her birthday.
Make it a happy event. Be as happy as u believe
that Lilia woud want u to be.