All the while she says things like "im keeping an open mind" and "Im not seeing anyone". Now we have been seperated for 8 months and i still miss my family.
If I were a suspicious person, I'd say that she's not "keeping an open mind." Instead, she's attempting to establish that you two have been living apart for at least twelve months, which is one of the grounds for a no-fault divorce in a lot of states. In any event, eight months of separation is far too long to be sitting around waiting for her to change her mind: as Engineer
points out, you need to get a lawyer involved and on your side right now
so that you can protect your parental rights.