@AbbieMcKenley,
AbbieMcKenley wrote:
I don't know if any of you guys are still on but i just wanted to update.
Didn't exactly work quite as well as i hoped.
It was mainly me and my dad talking and them giving the occasional "yeah, i remember that"
or someone starts crying which means everyone else starts but
at least they know we want to talk about and remember her.
I'm glad i did it though, there were things my dad remembered
that i'd forgotten and i don't think we had many tea bags left.
Lilia really was
way too awesome for cancer.
Thanks. Night Night.
Well, your friends n family 's strengths n weaknesses
r whatever thay r; u now have the satisfaction of knowing
that u did the right thing, the brave thing, when the occasion
required it.
THAT is not over. U still have freedom of speech.
U can press the issue to whatever extent u like for however long u like,
by asking
questions concerning your sister of whomever u like:
" what did u think of Lil 's saying this or doing that? "
Questions will have the effect of drawing them in to conversation.
U
demonstrated the extent of your love for Lil this evening; that 's to your credit.
U protected her from being forgotten at her own wake.
After my mother passed on, many years ago,
I continued staying with my relatives who had cared for her toward
the end of her Earthly life. 1958 was a significant year for my family,
and for many days I noticed that I kept referring in conversation
with them to incidents that then happened including my mother.
I started thinking that it was nice of them to put up with me
rather obsessively referring to so many occurrances of that time.
It was like for a long time everything out of my mouth began with:
"I remember back in 1958, . . . " followed by some event including
my mother, but so many, many times that I thought that I sounded
unreasonable and it was really very, very nice of them to tolerate
so much of that. Thay never complained, but I 'm sure it must have
been driving them nuts after a while and sustained for such a long time
as I kept it up. That was what my mother woud have said sounded
like "a broken record."
U have the freedom, in conversation with whomever u choose
(obviously your father, presumably also your mom) to bring up
memories of Lil, whenever circumstances move u to do so.
I hope that u will be happy that she is now in a better n more beautiful place
according to the accounts of those who 've scouted it out for us.
As several of us have already said:
u r more than welcome to talk about her in this forum.
She sounds like an extraordinary young lady.
It was our misfortune not to have known her.
Perhaps u 'll help us out and tell us about her.
David