Wow , I so want to know what happened in your relationship ,Since I have experience with both sides . I married a Widower and I am now a Widow.
I married my late husband in the same year he lost his wife . He spoke of her so very often I was scared that I could never fill her shoes , So I asked him about her and told him about my feelings . He spoke of her so often in the beginning that I felt like I knew her.
Now that he has gone, I know why he did it. She was a part of his life not to be forgotten . and so was he for me ..He will be a part of my life forever. I know I will remarry , in fact I am dating a wonderful man that I have known for the last 5 years of my marriage through work , so he's heard all the stories while we were married and knew of our relationship ..He's amazing . My husband would approve .