@boomerang,
Quote:Not the bah humbug you were looking for but I feel your angst having lived it myself.
Take care and be merry.
Thank you, boomerang. For a while there I was feeling rather like A2K's resident malcontent.
Quote:And then one day it hit me -- he wasn't sad, we were. He'd just forgotten. It wasn't anything personal.
That's a good way to approach the situation. I'll try to do that this time.
But the thing is, it was never exactly a "good" relationship with my mother & me, even before the onset of Alzheimer's. It wasn't what you'd call a "close" relationship. (Her closest relationship was with my sister, who has visited her about 3 times since installing her in the aged care facility.
) So I find the pressure of being
it, the sole remaining immediate family member, a bit excruciating. Especially when she keeps introducing me as her sister, to the staff! I try my best, but it's hard & it's a bit weird, really. Luckily for me, my niece (who has had a much better relationship with my mother) will be there, too. That certainly helps!