Would you tell on your kid's friends

oh...the porn was quite a bit more explicit.

I think porn is really the secondary issue here, with the primary issue being hacking into someone's computer -- against explicit instructions -- to get at the porn. That ain't cool.

I think you all are grossly overreacting over porn.

chai2 wrote:

oh...the porn was quite a bit more explicit.

I don't think so. You have to pay with a credit card for porn, don't you?

Kids can get really messed up seeing sexually explicit stuff, and act out what they see, even if (or perhaps especially if) they don't understand what they saw. Dlowan's seen it professionally, and commented on it here. My wife's seen it professionally. Don't underestimate the effects.

I'd be fascinated to know how you talked to Mo about what he'd seen, by the way!!!

if you knew their parents might hit them for what they did?

I'm not talking about a beating but you know.... like spanking... or some kind
of discipline that you would not do to your own child?

Or do you think that they'd have a right to know what their kids did anyway?

One sentence jumped out at me.

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I know one of the friends in question had been caught looking at this stuff
at home and was "beaten" for it.

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If he's a second time offender there is a problem and I think his parents need to know,
but the parents need to know their method of dicipline has not worked
and some suggestions could be offered as to diciplineary methods.

Are u crazy??
U want them to keep beating him until he loses interest in sex ????

If anyone tries to interfere in family relations (after ratting out the boy)
she will be told by the offending parents that thay do not take orders
on how to rear their son, before the next attack on him begins.

This STUDY was provoked by recent news reports of children engaged in sexually inappropriate behaviour, resulting arguably from viewing pornography. The first was a late-2003 news report from a Canberra, Australia hospital whose child-at-risk assessment unit documented a dramatic increase in the number of children engaged in "sexually abusive behaviour." In the mid-1990s the unit saw 2-3 cases a year. By 2000, that had risen to 28, and by late 2003 the unit had more than 70 cases. The hospital's unit manager Annabel Wyndham commented, ""We think this is a new thing of the modern world, because of access to the Net and - to be truthful - combined with some pretty terrible parenting."1

A March news story much closer to home covered the story of several unrelated police investigations of the sexual assault of children by other children in the Hamilton, Ontario-area. All of the victims were under the age of 12 and the oldest perpetrator was 13. In each of the cases, the perpetrators disclosed they were imitating behaviour they had seen portrayed on pornographic cable television channels and on the Internet.2

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Some Examples of Studies:

* A 1987 study found that women who were battered, or subject to sexual aggression or humiliation, had partners who viewed significantly more pornography than those of a control group drawn from a mature university population. 3
* A 1995 meta-analysis found that violent pornography might reinforce aggressive behavior and negative attitudes toward women.4
* A US study of teenagers exposed to "Hard core" pornography, "Two-thirds of the males and 40% of the females reported wanting to try out some of the behaviors they had witnessed. And, 31% of males and 18% of the females admitted doing some of the things sexually they had seen in the pornography within a few days after exposure."5
* A 1987 "panel of clinicians and researchers concluded that pornography does stimulate attitudes and behavior that lead to gravely negative consequences for individuals and for society, and that these outcomes impair the mental, emotional, and physical health of children and adults."6
* A 1993 study found, "Exposure to sexually stimulating materials may elicit aggressive behavior in youth who are predisposed to aggression. Sexually violent and degrading material elicits greater rates of aggression and may negatively affect male attitudes toward women." 7
* A 1984 evaluation of the increase in rape rates in various countries bears close correlation to liberalizing of restrictions on pornography.8
* Three separate studies demonstrate that exposure to violent pornography may increase males' laboratory aggression toward women.9,10,11

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Pornography affects children

As much of the research demonstrates, there is a modest to strong correlation between exposure to pornography and deviant activity by individuals. Child-centered studies show that children are affected at least as much as adults are.

One researcher who argues that pornography harms children puts it this way, "A child's sexual development occurs gradually through childhood. Exposure to pornography shapes children's sexual perspective by providing them information on sexual activity. However, the type of information provided by pornography does not provide children with a normal sexual perspective."

"To children, pornography is instructional in that it provides a visual message about new information. However, that information is not an accurate portrayal of human sexuality. Photographs, videos, magazines, and virtual games which portray rape and the dehumanization of females in sexual scenes are powerful forms of sex education. Unlike learning provided in an educational setting, exposure to pornography is counterproductive to the goal of healthy and appropriate sexual development in children. It teaches without supervision or guidance, inundating children's minds with graphic messages about their bodies, their own sexuality, and those of adults and children around them." 25

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