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Why DO I Push Men Away When I Get Close

 
 
Reply Fri 6 Nov, 2009 02:45 pm
Why do i push men away? It's starting to bother me that when I get close to a man, I then all of a sudden go cold and want to be left on my own. I have lost some very decent guys in my life because of this but I don’t understand why i do it..any ideas or is anyone else the same?
 
Sglass
 
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Reply Fri 6 Nov, 2009 02:59 pm
Are you the adult child of an alcoholic?
Ticomaya
 
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Reply Fri 6 Nov, 2009 03:00 pm
@LeonaBanks,
Have you considered the possibility of mental illness?
CalamityJane
 
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Reply Fri 6 Nov, 2009 03:35 pm
Really good answers so far!
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djjd62
 
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Reply Fri 6 Nov, 2009 03:36 pm
@Ticomaya,
Ticomaya wrote:

Have you considered the possibility of mental illness?


i have considered it

what kind would you suggest
shewolfnm
 
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Reply Fri 6 Nov, 2009 06:31 pm
because you are a closet case lesbian
panzade
 
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Reply Fri 6 Nov, 2009 06:36 pm
@LeonaBanks,
It's possible that you have issues with intimacy. Sometimes children who grow up in a chaotic abusive environment won't feel comfortable with a close and nurturing mate.
Did you have a comfortable relationship with your father, Leona?
Sglass
 
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Reply Fri 6 Nov, 2009 08:20 pm
LB did they have bad breath
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chai2
 
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Reply Fri 6 Nov, 2009 08:40 pm
@djjd62,
djjd62 wrote:

Ticomaya wrote:

Have you considered the possibility of mental illness?


i have considered it

what kind would you suggest


I'd have the type of mental illness where I could take this for it....

http://www.pittrxman.com/fucitol.jpg
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Finn dAbuzz
 
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Reply Sat 7 Nov, 2009 01:28 am
@LeonaBanks,
Because you haven't met me.

Or

You are a lesbian, and don't really want a masculine presence in your sex life that trumps a bull dyke.

I don't mean to insult masculine lesbians. As trite as it sounds, one of my favorite people is one.

Who can really answer your question without a whole lot of info?

Take a chance, try a woman, or stop dating the eff ups you've been drawn to.

Honestly: What do you really want in a partner?
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LeonaBanks
 
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Reply Sat 7 Nov, 2009 07:03 am
@panzade,
My dad was the greatest. My mom was even better. I just need a certain amount of space and so many men take offense to that. A lot of the men I've dated have been very clingy. I've had them say things like "I love you so much my heart hurts" or I want to spend every second of evey day with you" It drives me nuts.
LeonaBanks
 
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Reply Sat 7 Nov, 2009 07:03 am
@Sglass,
My parents were awesome.
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LeonaBanks
 
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Reply Sat 7 Nov, 2009 07:04 am
@shewolfnm,
Theres nothing no woman can do for me sex wise sweetie. I assure you there is nothing gay about me. I'm strickly dickly.
Ticomaya
 
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Reply Sat 7 Nov, 2009 07:42 am
@LeonaBanks,
LeonaBanks wrote:
Theres nothing no woman can do for me sex wise sweetie. I assure you there is nothing gay about me. I'm strickly dickly.

Are you sure?

Have you ever been known by the moniker "Roxxxxanne"?
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Joeblow
 
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Reply Sat 7 Nov, 2009 07:48 am
Darling, you already know if you want to hold your man, you just need a better horsie suit.
LeonaBanks
 
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Reply Sat 7 Nov, 2009 08:15 am
@Joeblow,
People kill me talking about a woman can't hold her man. I will never become someones personal toilet bowl just to keep a man. If he's a good man he will be true to you. You can be like Jesus mother Mary to some men and they will still cheat and lie. I'm not a good woman, I'm a great one.
panzade
 
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Reply Sat 7 Nov, 2009 08:29 am
@LeonaBanks,
Quote:
If he's a good man he will be true to you. You can be like Jesus mother Mary to some men and they will still cheat and lie.

True true. Seems like that goes both ways.
Maybe you could be a little more discerning about the guys you date; you know, like get to know them better before you commit. Hell, there's gotta be some good guys out there that aren't gonna be so clingy and such.
Joeblow
 
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Reply Sat 7 Nov, 2009 08:57 am
@LeonaBanks,
Could be you haven’t met the right one regardless of how *good they seem

And some men don’t want Jesus Mother Mary

The really good ones are too smart for that

Have you considered that at all?

Everybody needs a horsie suit!

Rid yourself of the toilet bowl complex

In fact, I’d probably have at least two suits " One horsie and one bunny.

Not that you’re me of course.

Embrace the inner Leona.

panzade
 
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Reply Sat 7 Nov, 2009 09:13 am
@Joeblow,
hear hear!
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LeonaBanks
 
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Reply Sat 7 Nov, 2009 09:47 am
@panzade,
Honey I do take time to get to know a man before I decide to sleep with them. I ALWAYS have the 3 month rule. A person wouldn't just hand someone the keys to their house or car without really knowing a person. My body is worth so much more than material things. I want to get to know the person. My body is very sacred to me and when I decide to share it, I don't take that lightly.
 

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