What is one mistake your parents made that you struggle to forgive?

@JPB,

JPB, most of the time it doesn't get to me, but today it did. I think round about the time BK was asked if she'd contacted the police about her abuse ... No, she explained. She was 5 year old at the time. So did she feel better about the situation when she was 6? And on & on ...... Normally, I believe I'm pretty tolerant, or just avoid certain posters. Today that was kinda hard to do.

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@msolga,

I understand completely. I'll stop my part in the sidebar now as well.

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@JPB,

Me, too! Next thing I'll be accused of making this thread about me! Wink

Enough.

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@OmSigDAVID,

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Without joking, I can assure u that I have been happy,
and very, very pleased to have no children

Me too, actually. Over the years, it was just never "the right time" for me to have children.

About the time I was pushing 40, I realized I just did not want children (a bit slow on the uptake, there!).

In retrospect, I'm very glad I chose to never have them. I think I've been much happier, childless. To each his/her own, eh?

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@msolga,

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I think round about the time BK was asked if she'd contacted the police about her abuse ... No, she explained. She was 5 year old at the time. So did she feel better about the situation when she was 6?

I was a bit offended by that question as well. I did not understand why it was asked.

Maybe David can explain what his thoughts were when he asked the question.

Eh, wait, never mind, David. I'm sorry, but come to think of it, I'm not all that interested in why you asked.

<Shrugs it off>

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@BorisKitten,

I think it must be more difficult for a woman to choose not to have children than it is for a man...or do I have a sexist slant on this?

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@panzade,

I think most humans have the natural desire to procreate and a childless man probably regrets the fact that he doesn't have kids just as much as a childless woman.

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@panzade,

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I think it must be more difficult for a woman to choose not to have children than it is for a man...or do I have a sexist slant on this?

You know, I've no idea. I'm just one woman, and only know what was right for me.

Maybe I'm missing some "Must Reproduce" hormones? I just never felt that drive, need, whatever...

Sorry, folks, are we off-topic here?

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@BorisKitten,

I love kids. enough that i did not want to mess one up. (my ex-wife was NOT ready either, although she now has 4)

always said i would wait until i really understood all of what happened to me, so i would not repeat my experiences.

now that i am mentally and emotionally able to be a good parent, i am unfit as a mate and provider.

(i will always be a good uncle, though)

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@Rockhead,

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now that i am mentally and emotionally able to be a good parent, i am unfit as a mate and provider.

...took the words out of my mouth. We're so alike

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@Rockhead,

Hooray for good uncles!

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@FreeDuck,

that was clever ducky...as a matter of fact, I owe my niece a call

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@panzade,

panzade wrote:

I think it must be more difficult for a woman to choose not to have children than it is for a man...
or do I have a sexist slant on this?

Being sexist or anythingist does not make u rong.

David

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@BorisKitten,

BorisKitten wrote:

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I think round about the time BK was asked if she'd contacted the police about her abuse ... No, she explained. She was 5 year old at the time. So did she feel better about the situation when she was 6?

I was a bit offended by that question as well. I did not understand why it was asked.

Maybe David can explain what his thoughts were when he asked the question.

Eh, wait, never mind, David. I'm sorry, but come to think of it,
I'm not all that interested in why you asked.

<Shrugs it off>

OK

David

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@eoe,

eoe wrote:

I think most humans have the natural desire to procreate and
a childless man probably regrets the fact that he doesn't have kids
just as much as a childless woman.

U are probably right about "most humans".
For MY part, I take quite a good deal of pleasure
in my not being a father. I have always felt that way.
When I was a kid, going back to the single digits of age,
I used to say that I never wanted to have kids.
U never know what u r going to get.
He coud be good or horrible, but u can 't send him back.

Altho I did not fight significantly with my own father,
we never quite saw eye-to-eye (tho we both liked guns)
and we felt mildly ill-at-ease with one another. I got a chuckle
out it when I heard him tell my mother, as he was about to leave home:
"I can 't stand him." I was waiting around to drive him to Idlewild.

He objected that I was taking out too many flight insurance policies on him, at maximum indemnity.
He said: "I am going to make it." I guess he was right.
That did not prove to be a good investment.

David

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@JPB,

JPB wrote:

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He isn't the one who started the gun talk.
Someone else brought it up, knowing full well (imo) what would happen in response.

This is accurate and correct.

JPB wrote:

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Those who incite the trolls
are doing as much derailing as the trolls themselves.

It is my understanding that a troll is defined as a man who
posts material for the exclusive purpose of provoking a response,
and that he does not necessarily believe what he posts.

I am not a hypocrit.
Since my beginning with Abuzz until now I have posted
what I actually mean (unless I am being sarcastic, or jaunty).
Accordingly, I take exception to being characterized with the insincerity of a hypocrit.

David

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@OmSigDAVID,

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I got a chuckle
out it when I heard him tell my mother, as he was about to leave home:
"I can 't stand him."

Wait a sec here... your father said this... about YOU? Is that right?

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@OmSigDAVID,

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...a troll is defined as a man who...

I wonder if trolls are usually male?

Not to deny your post. I just wonder if there are way more male trolls than female ones?

Er, sorry... getting off-topic... AGAIN!

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@OmSigDAVID,

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Being sexist or anythingist does not make u rong.

I didn't say it did...you're assuming

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@panzade,

panzade wrote:

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Being sexist or anythingist does not make u rong.

I didn't say it did...you're assuming

I am not exactly assuming;
I was only wondering whether u were implying that.

David

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