Thanks for your thoughtful post.
The gift card from the health club was a freebie from the club-- a way for them to potentially boost membership by offering a trial period. Although it cost him nothing, he was considerate and gave it to me. At the time, it did not register with me what he was doing.
What I liked about working at the Farmer's Market: it gave me a chance to be really social, to be around tons of people for an intense 4 hours selling this produce, moving from customer to customer, each interaction lasted no more than a few minutes.
In those interactions each one had its own sort of fast-paced jovial character. This goes for the "Bob", he'd always show up about 10 minutes before the Market closed, buy a bag of green beans or such, the money and pleasantries would be exchanged, and then poof-- he'd be gone. Just like all the others.
What he's seen of in me is the high energy. He's never witnessed my temper, my moodiness, he thinks I'm this cheery person who excersises a lot and is super friendly. So the level of my acquaintance with him is based upon this one facet, which I am comfortable with as long as it stays superficial.
One more note-- I love to travel for the very reasons I've stated: I get to meet a ton of people in short spurts and eveything is in the moment with no expectations of a future.
I have never gone out with him. I know what you're saying about going and being pleasantly surprised, but I have to tell you, I have gone out in the past with men with this objective in mind and it doesn't work for me.