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Workplace Courtesy

 
 
chai2
 
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Reply Sat 15 Aug, 2009 04:59 pm
@ossobuco,
ossobuco wrote:


And, yes, a mug, bring us a coffee mug...


...and a shrubbery. not too large, just a nice size.
dlowan
 
  1  
Reply Sat 15 Aug, 2009 08:22 pm
@Diest TKO,
Kewl.

Shall we now have a wake for the mug?

Tell us about your mug.
DrewDad
 
  1  
Reply Sat 15 Aug, 2009 09:17 pm
@OmSigDAVID,
OmSigDAVID wrote:
It is unclear Y u call him "they" several times
when your complaint is only against ONE guy.
That is a question that I ask u.

That's a statement, actually. Well... two of them, but one of them is false.
OmSigDAVID
 
  1  
Reply Sat 15 Aug, 2009 11:10 pm
@DrewDad,
DrewDad wrote:

OmSigDAVID wrote:
It is unclear Y u call him "they" several times
when your complaint is only against ONE guy.
That is a question that I ask u.

That's a statement, actually. Well... two of them, but one of them is false.

AGREED, DrewDad.
The last sentence is false.
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chai2
 
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Reply Sun 16 Aug, 2009 07:27 am
@dlowan,
dlowan wrote:

Tell us about your mug.


I wonder where that mug has gone.
You did love it so,
You looked after it, like a son.
And it went, wherever I did go.
Is it in the cupboard?
Wouldn't you like to know.
It was a lovely little mug
And it went, wherever I did go.

Where can that mug be?
It is a most elusive mug!
And it went, wherever I did go.
Ohhhhh, muggy muggy muggy mug
A mug, a mug, a mug, a muggy, oh....
oh muggy muggy muggy mug
That went....whevever I did go.
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Ticomaya
 
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Reply Sun 16 Aug, 2009 09:34 am
@OmSigDAVID,
OmSigDAVID wrote:
I 'm an ignorant dinosaur.

http://img34.imageshack.us/img34/4897/dino06p.jpg

Quote:
It blows my mind that people can FIND handy pictures
like that, and then just PUT them there in their posts.

http://img25.imageshack.us/img25/4901/tommychongart.jpg

Quote:
I wonder how thay do that ?

http://img17.imageshack.us/img17/5711/homersimpsonf.png
Diest TKO
 
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Reply Sun 16 Aug, 2009 09:41 am
So the L&F bin has gone over well. One of the other teams helped decorate it further. In the last few days I've received some interesting feedback from other coworkers about how they thought I handled the situation well. Some went as far as to say that he was long overdue to have someone stand up against him. I guess I didn't realize that so many others felt so intimidated by this person.

Word has traveled at this point to some more senior people. One tracked me down last night and told me he had heard what happened, and how he reacted to being confronted. This person, is maybe one of the most respected people at my workplace. He said that he was going to talk to my coworker, and additionally give him a piece of his mind. I told him he didn't need to do that, and that I felt resolved in the matter, but he insisted.

Perhaps this is karma. His insistence on being stubborn and boasting that he would not apologize, has now drawn negative attention to him from multiple angles (even people from his own team sent me emails). Additionally, I get the benefit of learning what kinds of positive working relationships I have made in the last year.

No revenge needed. My conscience can stay clean why he sorts through his own bad karma. I'm glad I didn't invest my thoughts into negative things.

The end message: Be good to people.
K
O
OmSigDAVID
 
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Reply Sun 16 Aug, 2009 09:45 am
@Ticomaya,
Beautiful work, Tico.
I am inspired.





David
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dlowan
 
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Reply Sun 16 Aug, 2009 09:50 am
@Diest TKO,
Well, well.


Well done!
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OmSigDAVID
 
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Reply Sun 16 Aug, 2009 10:02 am
@chai2,
chai2 wrote:

ossobuco wrote:


And, yes, a mug, bring us a coffee mug...


...and a shrubbery. not too large, just a nice size.

Yeah, those hedgerows in Normandy in 1944
were altogether too large.

Lemme get back to u.





David
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OmSigDAVID
 
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Reply Sun 16 Aug, 2009 10:09 am
@Diest TKO,

Congratulations on your success, TKO.
Good luck on find ing a new mug.
I don 't suggest that u threaten to burn the building.

It remains unclear Y u kept calling him "they"
when he was only one fellow.





David
Diest TKO
 
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Reply Sun 16 Aug, 2009 10:13 am
@OmSigDAVID,
Well, I used "they" originally because I didn't want to tell the gender of the person. I was however very tired while typing, and let the gender specific pronouns out, so that got ruined. That's all.

T
K
O
OmSigDAVID
 
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Reply Sun 16 Aug, 2009 10:59 am
@Diest TKO,
Diest TKO wrote:

Well, I used "they" originally because I didn't want to tell the gender of the person.
I was however very tired while typing, and let the gender specific pronouns out, so that got ruined. That's all.

T
K
O
Yeah, getting tired also happens to me a lot.
Y did u wish to conceal his gender?

"They" suggests that more than one person was at fault; ganging up on u; not fair.
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FreeDuck
 
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Reply Mon 17 Aug, 2009 10:19 am
@Diest TKO,
Diest TKO wrote:
As for moving forward, I'm still concerned here. I perhaps didn't emphasize this enough earlier, but now I have a trust issue here. I should elaborate. The four team leads meet and do what we call "rack and stack." This is a process in which all the team members are sorted from highest contributor to lowest contributor. Teams 1 and 2 have a lot of interface, we give turnover to each other every day we work. Teams 3 and 4 are the same. I'm on team 2 and this is the Team Lead for Team 3. My fear here is that he will attempt to hurt my score, to put me in my place. This assertion of power whether well founded or not, I think should be addressed. In other words, I shouldn't have to feel like that at work.

Well, that certainly changes things. I'm not sure if a mediated meeting is necessary so much as giving your team lead a heads up. You won't be in the "rack and stack" to defend yourself against any trumped up allegations from douchebag, but your team leader knows how you work. Giving him a heads up will allow him to defend you in these meetings.
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FreeDuck
 
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Reply Mon 17 Aug, 2009 10:23 am
@Diest TKO,
Diest TKO wrote:

My solution came to me earlier tonight. I searched around and found a good bin to make into a lost & found receptacle. I decorated it, placed it in a easily seen location, and sent out an email to all the teams letting them know about the new L&F bin and where it was. The coworker in question pretended he had no alternative. By creating the bin, I've removed that decision from him. If he wishes to continue to throw other peoples items away, he will do so knowing full well the proper first avenue. If he continues, and I need to actually seek help from the management, I will have illustrated both that (1) I already put in effort to constructively resolve this, and (2) that there is an established pattern of behavior. Given what happened, I don't think I need to do anything else. As apparent from many of my coworkers, my coworker has embarrassed himself and done more hurt to his own reputation.

I'm still shopping for a good mug replacement. Something with sarcastic workplace humor will be best I think.

As for the issue of trust, I decided that it is out of my hands. While he is one of the four team leads, he is not my team lead, and my team lead has voiced that that he supported me in this. I feel confident that I have appropriate advocacy on my side in that meeting, in spite of this one individual. I'll invest more of my trust in my team lead, if I cannot trust this person.

I

Well done. Ignore my earlier reply. You've handled this really well.
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DrewDad
 
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Reply Mon 17 Aug, 2009 10:28 am
@Diest TKO,
Excellent!
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Linkat
 
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Reply Mon 17 Aug, 2009 11:44 am
@Diest TKO,
As the saying goes.....
Living well is the best revenge!

I'm glad everything went so well for you.
OmSigDAVID
 
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Reply Mon 17 Aug, 2009 11:56 am
@Linkat,
Linkat wrote:

As the saying goes.....
Living well is the best revenge!


Do u believe that Mary Todd Lincoln
and Jackie Kennedy felt that way ?
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