Workplace Courtesy

And, yes, a mug, bring us a coffee mug...

It is unclear Y u call him "they" several times
when your complaint is only against ONE guy.
That is a question that I ask u.

OmSigDAVID wrote:

It is unclear Y u call him "they" several times
when your complaint is only against ONE guy.
That is a question that I ask u.

That's a statement, actually. Well... two of them, but one of them is false.

Tell us about your mug.

I 'm an ignorant dinosaur.

It blows my mind that people can FIND handy pictures
like that, and then just PUT them there in their posts.

I wonder how thay do that ?

ossobuco wrote:

And, yes, a mug, bring us a coffee mug...

...and a shrubbery. not too large, just a nice size.

Well, I used "they" originally because I didn't want to tell the gender of the person.
I was however very tired while typing, and let the gender specific pronouns out, so that got ruined. That's all.

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As for moving forward, I'm still concerned here. I perhaps didn't emphasize this enough earlier, but now I have a trust issue here. I should elaborate. The four team leads meet and do what we call "rack and stack." This is a process in which all the team members are sorted from highest contributor to lowest contributor. Teams 1 and 2 have a lot of interface, we give turnover to each other every day we work. Teams 3 and 4 are the same. I'm on team 2 and this is the Team Lead for Team 3. My fear here is that he will attempt to hurt my score, to put me in my place. This assertion of power whether well founded or not, I think should be addressed. In other words, I shouldn't have to feel like that at work.

My solution came to me earlier tonight. I searched around and found a good bin to make into a lost & found receptacle. I decorated it, placed it in a easily seen location, and sent out an email to all the teams letting them know about the new L&F bin and where it was. The coworker in question pretended he had no alternative. By creating the bin, I've removed that decision from him. If he wishes to continue to throw other peoples items away, he will do so knowing full well the proper first avenue. If he continues, and I need to actually seek help from the management, I will have illustrated both that (1) I already put in effort to constructively resolve this, and (2) that there is an established pattern of behavior. Given what happened, I don't think I need to do anything else. As apparent from many of my coworkers, my coworker has embarrassed himself and done more hurt to his own reputation.

I'm still shopping for a good mug replacement. Something with sarcastic workplace humor will be best I think.

As for the issue of trust, I decided that it is out of my hands. While he is one of the four team leads, he is not my team lead, and my team lead has voiced that that he supported me in this. I feel confident that I have appropriate advocacy on my side in that meeting, in spite of this one individual. I'll invest more of my trust in my team lead, if I cannot trust this person.

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As the saying goes.....
Living well is the best revenge!