I don't condone letting assholes get away with bad behavior, just b/c you are too afraid of what might happen by confronting them about it or doing something about it. It's a poor way to go through life, and I highly doubt that anyone lies on their deathbed saying, 'Geez, I wish I hadn't stood up for myself so many times.'
I agree with that as far as being afraid of someone. However, me personally, would look at it as this person not being worth my time.
ok, kinda off subject (ok, really off subject) your comment about being on your deathbed and thinking "I wish I had...." reminds me of something I thought of while driving home the other day. I think I may have even said this already on another thread.
I was driving home, and for no apparant reason a person I hadn't thought of in decades popped into my head. I remembered how something about the way this person behaved caused me to alter my behavior in some way...to a way that really wasn't true to me. I got a chuckle out of remembering that person, and I thought "Why did I let that persons demeanor change my actions? She had absolutely no influence on my life" Well, actually, this was someone who influenced any pay raises I got at the time, but....WTF, that was over 20 years ago, like that made any difference to me now.
Anyway, I had that flash of insight at that moment how unimportant it is to please most people by avoiding behavior that would displease them. In the big picture, they don't effect your life at all....then I immediately thought "Damn, if I had realized that back then, I would have had a lot more sex with a lot more guys"
jeez, I could have been a real slut and had a great time, and no one I associate with today would even know, or care.
anyway, that's why I advocate just blowing the guy off.
It means nothing.