How do I help my husband realize that it is not his fault that I was suicidal?

If you was my wife my over riding concern would be your state of health not my feelings!

If you wish to talk about it I would talk to you and in fact I would wish to share in any of your ongoing treatments that the menlth health people would think would be helpful to you.

From your short posting I would suggest that both of you should be in some form of join councling.

In any case all my best to you and your husband.

are you by any chance in your 40's with teenage or 20's kids. Or perhaps no off-spring

If he won't talk to you, how do you know he feels responsible?

You will be referred to therapy thru the hospital. Be sure that you can also get either marital or family counseling, as well as individal counseling.

When someone in the family is suicidal, family members feel very powerless and - yes - wonder if they did something to make the other person seek suicide as a coping device. Therapy can sort all this out. Please bring everyone in on this issue.

The fact that you and your husband are not talking about this is an indication on the state of communication in your home.

I don't think she is saying he won't talk to her at all - I think she is saying that he won't talk to her about her stay...but you are right -

You do need to talk to your husband about how important it is for you to talk about it - otherwise it becomes a burden for you to carry around and after what you went through that is the last thing you need. Let him know that his talking to you about it helps you heal and that it will draw you closer together. It will give you insight into him and he into you.

I think you may be dealing with a Mars and Venus thing. You want to talk about it because, well... you're a women and we like to talk about things that are on our minds. He doesn't want to talk about it because it was a distressing/traumatic episode in his life and he-folk tend to want to bury that stuff as last year's news and move on.

I'm not sure why you think his reaction is from some sense of guilt -- there's probably more to this situation than you've shared, but from what you've said so far I think he's being perfectly normal.