I honestly don't know. All I know is I gave who I thought was Mathos my phone number and he called me one Sunday afternoon while I was taking a nap. At first, he didn't even sound British - so I said, 'This is Mathos? You don't even sound British! ' he assured me it was him and then I started listening really carefully and to my ear his accent sounded like Ringo Starr's. So I said that - and asked, 'Oh, do you sound like Ringo because you're from the northwest - do Liverpudlians and Mancurians have similar accents ?' and he got all huffy like, 'No - I don't talk like I'm from bloody Liverpool!'
It was funny. We ended up having this really one-sided conversation because every question I would ask, he would pretend to not hear me...
But he was very polite and charming.
I guess I eventually came to believe that Mathos and Spendius were two separate people. And I'll tell you why - Mathos was much quicker on his feet with the bawdy acronym. I discerned a major difference in thinking styles.
But honestly - it wouldn't have mattered to me either way. If anything, I'd find that more impressive -that someone could appear so bookish and cerebral and at the same time so blustery and macho and continue to be what I found pretty entertaining and funny. And it'd make me more curious to meet them.
I mean, I'm not putting any great emotional energy into it - because in my mind, and at this point in my life- that's what friends are for- to have fun with.
I already have people I can rely on who I need to behave responsibly toward me.
If someone wants to joke and laugh and be silly - so be it - I'm up for it- as long as it doesn't hurt or humiliate anyone.
And just so everyone knows - I worked ten hours yesterday at my restaurant - we got slammed- and then I went out to dinner with my daughter and her dad - I had cashew chicken. Then we went to see Seven Pounds with Will Smith (good movie- thought provoking) then I came home and peeled potatoes for today's lunch.
I was nowhere near a computer yesterday. I would never play games with someone's head or deliberately hurt someone.