@aperson,
Wanted to address a bit of your post that I skipped earlier. I didn't know about your South African roots so this isn't personally directed towards you, or your family.
aperson wrote:...all the violence commited by black people against whites could extremely easily stir up hatred that maybe wasn't even previously there.
Well South Africa has a long long history of racial friction. With apartheid, experimentations on blacks and all. So I don't think the more recent violence is generating all of it. I think it contributes to a vicious cycle that started generations ago.
That being said, the individuals I met were certainly influenced by it. The violence they spoke of was mostly stories of being robbed and killing or wounding the attackers. But it was the glee they would show in what they did to "the savages" (things like dragging them in a car when they reached in to try to snatch something) that struck me as having racial overtones.
Quote: And if they tell you about crime that might make blacks seem primitive, they're not lying. It happens.
No they aren't lying, there is some pretty horrific stuff happening there. But the fixation on it is usually telling. You can see a good example of the same thing here:
http://able2know.org/topic/109651-1
Pamela Rosa is a quite open racist and that thread about crime in South Africa is her attempt to portray blacks as primitive and backwards. The crimes may well be true, but there's some pretty clear motivations for the fixation on them.
That's what I'm talking about. Every South African I met was just like her (again, with the disclaimer that I'm sure they aren't all like her). It was very difficult to talk to them because of this. Here's an old room mate of mine who was here when we started able2know:
http://able2know.org/topic/124-1
He's being very tame on a2k, but in person his opinion was that Africa was dying because blacks are an inferior race, and lost no time in telling me about it. It was hard to live with him, he was a friend and I found it hard to be friends with someone who thought that way.
Now like I said, I'm sure not all South Africans think like this, but these experiences combined with the history of the country suggests to me that there's more to this than just my personal experience and that race relations in South Africa are, in fact, worse than most other countries.
The history of apartheid is full of a lot more extreme recent cases of race wars than almost anywhere on earth. The violence was brutal (ever heard of
necklacing?) on both sides.
With that history, and with the experiences I have had personally I don't think it's much of a stretch to say that South Africa has had one of the more rough histories of race relations and that the rates of racism are likely much higher than average.
That doesn't mean I think all South Africans are racist, I made that very clear in my first post here on the issue. It just means I think that they have much higher rates of this kind of thinking than any other country I have personal experience with (and to answer your earlier question, no I have not been there, my experience was with expat communities of South Africans. They had an immigration deal with Brazil, so a lot of white South Africans moved there after apartheid fell).
Anywho, I hope you don't feel personally insulted over this. Looking at the history of the country I don't see how it's a polemic accusation to say that South Africa has higher rates of racism than most countries.