@RexRed,
Red you finally said something (or posted something) that makes even a slight bit of sense.
I agree, you do build children up. You do not tear them down or speak ill towards them. However, you do not do this by being accepting of behaviors and activities that are detrimental. You do not teach them that stealing is an acceptable behavior even if they were born with a genetic predisposition to steal. You do not teach them that homosexuality is an acceptable behavior. You do not teach them that having sex with their family members is an acceptable behavior... even if they think their sister is hot. You do not teach them that being violent is acceptable behavior even if they have a genetic predisposition to be more violent than others. You do not teach them that marrying 15 women is an acceptable lifestyle even if they think they want to marry their 5 girlfriends.
You do not build a child up by allowing him to partake in immoral, detrimental activities. Quite the opposite. You teach them that those behaviors are wrong and not to be engaged in so that they can grow up to be respectful, moral, upstanding, productive members of society.