Thomas I went back and re-read Dlowan's posts again. I see a few serious questions she asked me. I will restate them without the prejudicial language she used.
1) How prevalent are men who would value virginity in their partners? What is your evidence? (I answered these together).
The answer is that it is quite prevalent. The evidence I provided was the fact it permeates our culture-- from the Bible to popular movies, to Seinfield.
2) Why do men fantasize about virginity?
The answer is "Who the heck cares?" Perhaps it is the evolutionary need for exclusivity... perhaps Erickson explains it well with his observation of biological differences between genders. Perhaps it is a cultural thing.
Judging sexual preferences is not acceptable.
If there are any more questions... I will gladly answer them. I would appreciate if prejudicial terms like "fetish" or "debase" are left out of the discussion.
Perhaps someone would answer the questions I raised...
1) Why is valuing virginity any worse than any other part of sexuality-- take monogamy for example?
2) Why do traditionally male sexual traits get treated with disdain, where traditionally female traits are considered "healthy" and normal?