@littlek,
That's a fascinating thread-starter! I wish I could do it justice thirty minutes after midnight, but I can't. Instead, here's an list of thoughts that come to my mind, to come back to when I'm more awake.
1) New England feels very European to me, from what little I've seen of it yet. You guys still are more economically libertarian than my friends in Munich. But generally speaking, your thinking is similar to ours on social issues, on the value of grasping reality, and on learning. Put the other way round, the people I met in Boston would fit in well in Munich.
2) I hear you on not "getting" the other side at all, and think it's a completely separate issue from being politically right or left. I'm a libertarian (albeit more soft-core by American standards than I used to think), so I frequently disagree with Americans who call themselves liberal.
But with the conservatives I meet in real life in New Jersey, I very rarely have a debate. They, generally speaking, like to talk in terms of good and evil. I like to talk in terms of nuts and bolts. That way, we often don't reach enough common ground even to disagree.
3) I'm not sure education correlates with liberalism in Germany as strongly as it seems to do in America. I think that's for one, because our conservative's philosophies typically go back to either classical liberalism or Catholic social teaching, both of which harmonize well with education. Second, we have a very active religious left in Germany (maybe not as active as in the 70s and 80s, but still active.) They are anti-gene-technology, anti-stem-cell-research, anti-chemical industry, and as self-righteous in all this as Pat Robertson.
So that part of the American experience I can't
really see in Germany.
4) Where does that leave you? Well, why don't you live in Western Europe for a while, see what it's like to live in a country where your obscure political views are the mainstream?