@sozobe,
Soz wrote:I'll just get to each one in a more leisurely fashion, which I think is more what dlowan had in mind anyway.
In so far as I had anything in mind, that was indeed it.
That is, if this thread "worked", I hoped it would be a quiet somewhere (if you didn't do it on a thread, because it wasn't appropriate, or in personal contact) to say the things that hit you from time to time about someone that you knew you would wish to have said if they suddenly died, or just disappeared from A2k suddenly (as happens a lot, really).
So..if people wanted to use it, I thought it might hover in the backs of their minds, and there would be posts from time to time from folk, as stuff occurred to them, rather than big statements about a lot of people at one time...not that there's anything wrong with that!
And, indeed, Soz, you were one of the progenitors...more when you said you were glad you had said certain things to Noddy, and I knew I hadn't, and that there were others who felt they hadn't, than anything else.
And then I saw Craven getting irked when people said nice things to him, because of the response dilemma (as well as general normal thorny Cravenesque de Kereness) and I kind of put the two together...ie the not responding thing as a way of taking away pressure from everyone, and making the whole thing less treacly, I guess, and a bit more mysterious and casting bread upon the watersy, ...I mean, you'll never know if anyone read what you said, or not, will you....unless they post soon after you?