@okie,
okie, comparing all women who are concerned about women's issues and gender equality to the most negative stereotype of a strident, man-hating feminist, is a little like suggesting that all animal lovers are like the most radical members of PETA.
My point is that most women are feminists, in terms of wanting basic gender equality for women--they want equal political power, equal treatment, equal pay, equal opportunity, etc for all women.--and I think this is true whether these women are stay-at-home moms, or secretaries, or police officers, or doctors, or governors, or senators. I take a much broader view of feminism than you do, and I don't see it in negative terms.
While you say that men are "usually the breadwinners in a family", that's not really true. Last year, women comprised 46% of the total labor force in this country--almost half the working population is comprised of women. And almost 60% of all women over the age of 16 were working or looking for work. Seems to me, that adds up to a lot of breadwinners, and a lot of women who are contributing to family incomes. And not all of these women are career types, or people who work because they want to, many are women who work because they have to, in order to keep food on the table, or to be able to buy their kids new shoes, even though there may also be a male breadwinner in the family, one income often isn't enough. And guess what, women still earn only about 80% of what men earn, so the fight for equality in this area is far from over, although undeniable progress has been made.
So okie, I think it's time to put aside some of your out-dated stereotypes, and old-fashioned notions, and take a more realistic look at the problems that confront women--most women--today. This really isn't a liberal-conservative political issue, it's a social issue that affects most women. The Republican party, particularly as it became more conservative in the past few decades, simply began ignoring women's issues, when it wasn't being down-right antagonistic to them, and this drove many of the women's rights advocates, who had been Republicans, into the Democratic party where they found a more receptive environment.
Now we have an election year where one woman nearly became a nominee for president, and another woman has been designated the nominee for vice president. Both of these events are very bittersweet.
For supporters of Clinton it was sweet she amassed 18 million votes, and clearly proved that a woman, this particular woman, had the ability to lead a nation--she was regarded very seriously. It was bittersweet that she did not get the nomination, and bittersweet that she was apparently not considered seriously for the VP slot.
And, after Clinton's long, hard fight to try to win a nomination, out of the woodwork comes Palin, plucked from relative obscurity by a male benefactor, McCain, to help lead her party to victory. Wow, a woman will be on a national ticket after all! Wait, not so fast. What's wrong with this picture? Well, for one thing, this women has no experience dealing with either national domestic issues or foreign policy issues. Her alleged "executive experience" is as the small town mayor of a place with about 6,700 people, and serving for only about 2 years as the governor of a state that has a total population only about 25% the size of the borough of Brooklyn in NYC (and NYC has 4 other boroughs). Oh, and she was also involved in her local PTA.
Since it was inevitable that Palin would be compared to Clinton, simply given the proximity of events, it was also fairly obvious, by just about any measure, how unqualified Palin was to be picked as VP. This caused many women to become livid. It looked like tokenism, it looked like a gimmick, it looked like another instance of a powerful man simply using a woman for his own gains. And, right now it looks like Palin is a sacrifical lamb who has been set up for the slaughter by McCain.
Do not blame liberals/democrats/feminists/the media, etc.for the intense scruntiny, and negative evaluation of Palin, blame McCain. He picked a relative unknown, so she will, and should, be subjected to the most intense scrutiny. They have to dig up every scape of info--particularly because her resume and public record is so thin, and because the election is only two months away.
Her main negative, the lack of any record of appropriate experience that would warrent her even being offered the position of VP nominee, reflects more on McCain--and his questionable judgment--than it does on Palin. Could she really say no, and turn down her chance to be in this "historic" position? She may really not have fully understood what she was getting herself into. McCain should have known what he was letting Palin, and the Republican party, in for with his very dubious choice.
But here Palin is, on the ballot as the poster child for the anti-abortion forces, bringing the most emotional social issue, legal abortion, to the forefront of this current political campaign, which really should be focused on other matters right now. And all of those who value a woman's right to choose, and control her own body, whether or not they may personally approve of abortion, feel the status of Roe vs Wade threatened by the possible spector of Palin in the oval office--and they are ready to fight her. McCain may share her views, but he'll set her up to take the heat--and serve as a distraction. The more noise made about abortion, the more evangelical votes he might get--so, attacking her might be good for him.
Now we learn that Palin's 17 year old, unmarried daughter, a high school student, is pregnant, and, since Palin has advocated an abstinence policy regarding teen sexuality, the situation is more than slightly embarrassing and controversial. The failure of advocating abstinence-only programs, and issues of teen sexuality, and the choice of abortion, are now glaringly apparent in Palin's own family, but we are being told this topic is off limits because it is a "private family matter" or because "candidate's children are off limits". What kind of nonsense is that! Palin's political positions and positions on social matters are extremely relevant in this campaign. As a candidate for VP, her personal life can no longer be kept completely private--you pretty much forgo your privacy when you step into the public arena to seek the 2nd highest office in the land. And Palin knowingly put her daughter into the media glare when she accepted the nomination--she exposed her daughter's pregnancy to the entire world. You can't put the genie back into the bottle.
The public and the media love gossip--this topic won't die down. And, in this instance, Palin's views about abstinence are so flawed they failed with her own child. The daughter should not be attacked, or used, as part of a campaign strategy--in that regard there should be a hands-off attitude toward her--but Palin, and her public positions on these matters, is fair game for any scrutiny and any really tough, and personal questions that come her way.
Palin asserts that her daughter "chose" to keep this fetus, but her own political/social views declare she would like to take that choice away from all women--even in cases of rape or incest. So how does Palin view "choice", what does she mean by having "choices"? Adoption? For many women, that option is even more emotionally difficult and traumatic than abortion--and it requires that the fetus be carried to term, something a woman might not want to do, or be able to do, for a variety of reasons.
Palin's daughter is fortunate. The family can afford to provide for her child, and they can afford to help in the care of the child, and they are willing to do so. What about the unmarried, young, pregnant 17 year olds who do not have the financial resources, family support, or intellectual or emotional ability to bear and raise a child? Why does Palin want to limit the choices for other people's daughters?
This is no longer just a private family matter. The issues raised by this matter should continue to be discussed--and they will be discussed. Palin has to either face the music or get out of this race. That was the obligation she accepted along with her nomination.
That McCain would have chosen a running mate based mainly on her appeal to the conservative religious right, disregarding her obvious lack of appropriate experience for the job of VP, as well as her personal family problems, and possible ethical problems/violations as governor, is genuinely baffling. Either he has incredibly bad judgment and acts far too impulsively, or he really wants to make sure he won't be elected.